Who
Attends Club Tantra?
Many
attend Club Tantra evenings in a couple, with a mate
or date. Some partners in a couple choose to
do all the exercises only with each other while they
enjoy the erotic atmosphere and sexual energy of the
group. Such look-see couples get turned on watching
and listening to other people getting turned on and
making love.
Many
newbies and people curious about tantra, swinging,
polyamory and bisexuality attend to learn and
experiment with their relating options.
Other
couples--particularly polyamorous pairs and in the
Lifetsyle playcouples--exchange massages and make love
with other singles and couples.
Singles are usually gender
balanced--we usually admit the same number of single
men and women, though we do admit extra women who want
to connect with couples or other women. Singles
and couples are often interested in finding a date,
mate or life partner. Sometimes committed triads
and same sex couples attend Club Tantra events.
Singles, couples, triads or groups--all are welcome;
we all learn from each other.
Whether
you come to watch, swing softly, swap, or find
lifelong lovers, Club Tantra's combination of tantra
and the lifestyle party lets you flow with ease and
comfort.
What’s
the difference between a swinger’s party and Club
Tantra?
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The
energy and atmosphere at Club Tantra is unlike
many swinger parties. The structure of a Club
Tantra evening-- a tantra class followed by a
party--creates an energy that resonates with a
lot of people.
Unlike
purely swinger parties, which can be too fast
or rough for some, Club Tantra events slowly
build safety, inclusion, cohesion, sensuality,
then tantric sexuality. We create sacred space
and warm ambiance so people can relax,
hear and understood each other, feel secure,
supported and encouraged and, as a result,
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At
Club Tantra, we express our desires, expectations,
limitations and boundaries. We discuss,
understand and honor each others' hopes and
limits We learn and reinforce couples'
agreements and support each person is supported and
encouraged in what they want and need. We encourage
honesty at all times; truth sets us free. Tantra in
our erotic atmosphere is fun, sensual, passionate and
loving and also provides deep healing, food for our
souls. The Club Tantra format satisfies our
longing for deeper connection and greater intimacy.
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At
Club Tantra "No" means
"No". "No’s" are
honored with reverence and sincerity so when
"Yes" comes, it's genuine. The
slower energy of tantra llets you relax and
gradually let your hair down, like a flower
glistening with morning dew on its petals that
gently opens to the gradually expanding warm,
morning sun.
A
friend of ours who ran swinger parties for
years said that after a swinger’s party, he
had fun, but felt exhausted. When
he learned tantra, he learned how to control
his energy and move it between himself and his
lovers. The result: he felt
exhilarated. When he slowed his erotic
connecting, looked in his partners' eyes,
shared tantric breathing with them and
exercised ejaculatory control, he felt
energized and genuinely loved. He could stay
present longer with his lovers and as a result
they felt better about the experience and didn’t
have the morning-after regrets, shame, guilt
and resentments they'd hithertofore felt after
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How
do I know if I’m ready for a Club Tantra party?
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Club
Tantra, swinging or polyamory won't fix your
relationship. If you want to tune-up your
relationship, schedule a private tantra
session with Kira and Xander and learn some
tantra first. Learn what, at Club
Tantra, you'll be getting into. If you and
your partner are having relationship
difficulties and need more than just a tune-up
or tantra lesson, you may even need couple
counseling with Kira
and Xander. But if you’re fine with your
partner and in a good space, you may want to
try the Club Tantra experience without a
private preparation session.
Fill
out the application to attend Club Tantra and
notice how you feel as you answer the
application's questions. If, after you answer
the questions, you still you want to attend
Club Tantra, you’re ready to attend.
At a Club Tantra evening, activities gradually
move from entry-level mixer encounters to
tantra instruction, sexual demonstrations and
opportunities to practice tantra sex
techniques and, in groups, massage one woman
and man at at a time. |
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There
are logical breaks where you could take your leave if
you find that you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed. Or
you may simply move to another part of the house till
you get more centered, catch your breath and feel like
you can rejoin the group. Remember, there’s never
any pressure to do anything. You can always simply
watch.
What
if I’m ready and my partner isn’t?
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We
encourage you to be honest with your partner
at all times. We honor relationships and don’t
want you to do anything that would risk what
you have. If your partner isn’t ready for a
Club Tantra party, schedule private tantra
instruction to address your concerns you
attend Club Tantra or any alternative
lifestyle function.
If
this subject has come up, it more than likely
it won’t go away. Couples can drift apart
and as they go through time and develop other
interests. Sexuality often becomes a big issue
with couples as partners shift the
subpersonalities they present to each other
Romantic Lover to Practical Partner to deal
with work, stress, children, issues and
aging. In this shift, couples who are
inflexible often split up. Relationships that
survive and satisfy require conscious
effort. Lifestyling and polyamory can
keep you and your beloved intimate and erotic.
Seek professional counseling if you have any
doubts before either one or both of you attend
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Can
singles attend Club Tantra?
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Yes,
singles can attend. We gender-balance our
events but there are always situations which
may skew our numbers. We admit same-sex
couples and triads. Sometimes people who say
they’re coming don’t make it. So,
despite our efforts, the Club Tantra you
attend may not have equal numbers of males and
females. If you find yourself "the odd
person" at Club Tantra, use this
situation to turn-on your warmth and relate to
couples or groups that form during the course
of the events.
Can
I come as a single if my partner doesn’t
want to or isn’t here?
If you and
your partner agree, you can attend Club Tantra
as a single. Often one member of a pair
attends Club Tantra. Just be honest
about your relationship when we do our
check-in; some attendees are only looking for
play partners but others are single, dating
and seeking a primary partner and need to know
it you're already committed to someone
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Can
we hump the host and hostess at a Club Tantra party?
Maybe.
Xander
and Kira are a committed couple and life partners who
identify themselves as tantric and polyamorous. They
date but get to know a person or couple well before
they get sexual. If you wish to court them, do so
before the Club Tantra evening. At Club
evenings,
Kira and Xander are
usually busy hosting the party and won’t decide on
the spot about whether to take you as a new lover. But
if you've already connected with them, they may play
with you when Club Tantra enters its party
phase. Fill out a personals and communicate with
Kira and Xander at www.tantraconnection.com
or email them at CourtesanCouple@aol.com
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Can
I be guaranteed to get laid?
No
guarantee. If you come to the
party with great sexpectations, you may be
disappointed. If you find that people avoid
connecting with you, look at yourself as
though you were someone considering you as a
lover. From the eyes of another, are you
desirable as a lover? The universe is a
bio-feedback system and if you don't connect
with lovers, you're somehow invisible, boring
or repellant. If you fail to connect or,
if you do connect, the person you connect with
is "wrong" for you, look at what you
advertise. Examine what you’re pulling in
from the universe and schedule private
counseling/coaching and tantra sessions.
People are sensitive to energy when they
studying tantra, and you may have blocks which
keep your energy from flowing. We come from a
dysfunctional society, so don’t take it
personally. You may simply need to reprogram
yourself to get your needs met.
With
study, therapy, counseling, coaching and
fine-tuning you'll get different reaction from
potential partners. |
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We’ve
seen many students transform from shy, nervous, nerdy,
neurotic and ordinary to graceful,
self-confident. They become tantric Gods and
Goddesses when they immerse themselves in their
tantric practice. Tantra transforms timidity and
truculence to take-charge transcendence.
At
Club Tantra you put tantric practice into action and,
with others of like mind, take tantra to its highest
level in divine, loving sacred circles,
extended-families and tantric tribes. Come find
your bliss in ecstatic states of erotic fun and
passionate play.
If
you have a question for our FAQ, email us at ClubTantraHI@aol.com
and put FAQ in the subject line.
ANNUAL
DreamMaker MEMBERSHIP FEE: Good for DreamMaker Clubs:
MINGLES
FOR SINGLES, TANTRA CONNECTION,
POLYAMORY CONNECTION,
DreamMaker Mixers
or CLUB TANTRA. Membership
fee must be renewed each year. Fee includes
Orientation Interview or Annual Review. $150 single, $150 couple, $200 triad.
Orientation Interview ($150) is required before you can participate in
our dating/study groups and parties. You may come to one of our orientation
groups (Fridays, 5PM, registration required)
or schedule a private orientation interview.
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