CUDDLE CLUB

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Humans need touch.  Without it, we die.  In an experiment conducted early in the 20th century orphans who were deprived touch withdrew from the world. Some became autistic. Eventually all died. Conclusion: humans touch or perish.

Many lack intimate relationships.  They find it difficult to meet their touch needs.  They want to touch and be touched, yet touching, unless done "appropriately" is socially unacceptable.  What a dilemma.  How do we touch and get touched in a touch-deprived world?

Cuddle Club structures parties in safe environments where participants learn communication techniques and set boundaries creating the ideal atmosphere for the development of intimacy and genuine affection.


Discover the joy of non-sexual touch and affection.  Meet fascinating people in a relaxing environment. Create lasting friendships, watch them grow. Experiment in a safe enviornment and discover what pleases you.  Co-create a feeling of safety and security with others of like mind. Feel loved and accepted. Experience warm fuzzies and good vibes. Feel good about yourself and others.  Network, meet new friends, roommates and potential relationship or business partners. Enjoy a playful and respectful social environment.

Please donate to Cuddle Club via Donation Fee Schedule featured below:


  $10.00 - January
  $15.00 - February
  $20.00 - March
  $25.00 - April
 
  $150 Polyamory or Tantra Basic 101 Class & Orientation Interview *



 




Check-In

After you arrive and check in you're directed to a changing area where you don your favorite pajamas.  Wear clothes that are lose and comfortable so you can relax and enjoy yourself.

Welcome Circle

The evening begins with a Welcome Circle where you and the others introduce yourselves, tell us a bit about you and explain what brought you to the group.  You listen to the others and tune them in as we go around the circle, learn who they are and what led them to this evening.  You notice attractions and repulsions, see where you're drawn and note  those with whom you'd like to chat or cuddle.  We encourage you to meet everyone in the course of the evening for all have messages for your soul or you wouldn't have shown up to be together in the first place.
 

Your Cuddle Club Party hosts, Sasha and Kira and other guest facilitators explain the Cuddle Club philiosophy and rules. They lovingly prepare you for an evening of friendship and fun.  

Ice-Breaker Exercises

We begin with mixer and ice-breaker exercises designed to help you meet everyone, get to know them a bit, relax and feel grounded and connected.  We play boundary establishing games like "Yes, No, More, Less".  You learn how to state your needs and wishes, negotiate and make requests while you address the needs and invitations of others.  You create connections according to your comfort levels and desires.  At first you  may chose to simply talk.  Here you are free to be who you are.  There's no requirements to meet anyone's expectations. 
 

Cuddling and Connecting

Taking into consideration the energy of the group and based on consensus, we may begin the evening with directed cuddle circles or shoulder or foot massages. After some initial exercises, the rest of the evening's non-directed.  Relax and go with the flow.  With rules and boundaries firmly established and set in place, it's time to get out of your head and into your senses, enjoy giving and receiving without fear or repercussions.

Socialize, laugh, cuddle and benefit from a cozy environment enhanced by a charming mix of recorded (or sometimes live) music played at a volume that enhances  conversation. Some cuddle in groups while others enjoy one-on-one time.  Touch feet to feet or enjoy embracing head to toe.  Hug, rub, pat, scratch, massage, caress, spoon.  It's all up to you. 

Closing Circle

We usually end in a puppy pile then gather in a closing Circle to share our thoughts and feelings.  By this point many participants are often in a state of cuddle intoxication.  They feel connected to the group, experience unity consciousness, a state unimagined at the beginning of the group. But after long hugs and goodbyes, exchanging cards, numbers, emails and names, we break ourselves apart from one another and bid our farewells.

 

The Rules

Arrive on time or early.  If you can't make it on time, come another time when you can.

Pajamas stay on the whole time.

Cuddling is not required.

No grinding or humping.

Shower right before you come to the party so you'll be super clean and smell fresh.

Shave so your face won't be rough. Shampoo beards and mustaches.

No perfumes please.  Some people are allergic.

Do not let the pets into the house.  Wash your hands if you touch them.

Ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone.

Respect personal boundaries. 

Ask before touching a new area or new person.  Never assume.

   

Communicate clearly.  Make specific requests.

Take feedback with a good heart. Give feedback with a gentle tone.

Yes means YES and no means NO.  Maybe means NO.

Changing your mind is totally acceptable.

Move when you're uncomfortable. Don't sit there politely and quietly suffer.

Communicate clearly with partners and establish your boundaries.

Respect relationship agreements.  If you don't know what they are, ask.

If you have any concerns or need assistance, get one of the Cuddle Party hosts.

Keep the Cuddle Space tidy.  Wash your own dishes.  Clean up spills when they occur.

All emotions are ok. Tears and laughter are welcome in the group.  If you feel angry or scared, seek the assistance of one of our highly trained hosts (many who are skilled psychotherapists) and go to one of our breakout rooms.

No gossip.  Identities of all participants are confidential.

What to Wear

Pajamas, nighties.  Nothing too risqué or overtly sexy.  Dress comfortably rather than sexy. 

Suggestions on What to Bring

Pillows, friends, toothbrush, toothpaste, mouth wash, breath mints, razor, soap, brush, comb, shampoo, towel, stuffed animals, blankets (or bankies?), flashlight, pu pu's to share, bottled water, snacks, juice, sparkling water or cider.  No liquor, drugs or intoxicants, please.  No smoking in the house.   
 

$25 each meeting, 10 for $200 ($20 each), 20 for $300 ($15 each), 40 for $400 ($10 each)
Pre-Registration Required.  Orientation Interview required. 
Call 808-244-4103 to register or email
schooloftantra@aol.com



These pics are taken from cuddle parties happening in locations around the world.  Help humanity.  Help yourselves.  Spread the love. Start a cuddle group in your home town soon.  Hug a neighbor, heal the planet.  Make hugging circles, not wars.  If we all hugged at least one person every day and spread our love through hugs, we'd heal all the peoples of this planet and end all wars, forever and always. Love is the answer.


SYNERGY CENTER
SCHOOL OF TANTRA

PO Box 2973, Maui, Hawaii 96793
808-244-4921

 



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SCHOOL OF TANTRA
TEMPLE OF TANTRA
WORLD TANTRA ASSOCIATION
TANTRA THEOSOPHICAL SOCIETY
1371 Malaihi Road
Wailuku, Maui, Hawaii  96793
(808) 244-4921 (Maui office)

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