WHAT HAPPENS IN ORIENTATION SESSION ON MAUI WITH DR. SASHA & JANET KIRA LESSIN?

There are several variants of the orientation, depending on whether you come to it alone, come as a pair, or come as a moresome (triad, quatrad, pod). What you explore in the orientation depends upon what interests you, what you seek in exploring relationships or tantra or sacred sexuality. What you explore also depends upon your prior experience with relationships or tantra as well as your experience clearing with your rearers and the other significant others in your life. The content of the interview also varies with your emotional fitness and prior holotropic, pastlife or shamanic exploratiosn. If you’re interested in polyamory, the content of your orientation explores the reactions of your subpersonalities and partners in multiperson loving. 

ORIENTING INTERVIEW FOR INDIVIDUALS
We help you witness and center yourself as you activate each of your energy centers (chakras). You give each energy center–perineum, genitals, diaphagm, heart, throat, vision center, crown--voice (Inner Child, Sexy Self, Hero, Lover, Communicator, Visionary/Thinker, Spiritual Aspect, respectively), find out what each wants and needs in terms of your lovelife. You explore other subpersonalities that have an interest in your lovelife–your Inner Critic, Pleaser, Perfectionist, Artist, etc. so, from your Center you can recognize, accept and coordinate all your voices from your center. We give you homework to complete that will continue to facilitate your growth and appreciation of the needs of each of your subselves till you next see us for a tantra event or advanced individual technique lessons. Your orientation helps you become clear with your goals and life focus, where you've been and where you want to go.  This process keeps all our members safe.  After your personal orientation, together we decide which group or groups may be appropriate for you or if you want to continue with private counseling sessions. 

ORIENTING INTERVIEW FOR PAIRS & MORESOMES
We begin by having you and your partner or partners hold hands, look into each others’ left eyes till you feel your oneness with each other, breathe in and out at the same time, then tell each other what you’d like to get out of the session a) for yourself as an ind ividual, b) for you as a couple, triad or group.

ACTIVE LISTENING: We then take you through experiences that help you get what you want out from this interview. Some of the variations we use for this are Active Listening, where you take turns: you, the Speaker, talk while the other partner (s), the Listener, paraphrases what you say, till you say, “correct.” The listener asks if you have more to say and you continue to fully express yourself while you make sure your partner, in his or her own words, gets each of your ideas to your satisfaction. Then your Listener summarizes your main thoughts, empathizes with your emotions and asks if you have any behaviors–behaviors that address the needs underlying what you want--to request. You say what you want and why you want it, what need motivates your wants. Your listener or listeners commit to whatever requests she, he or they can an negotiate the requests that demand more than they wish to give. They agree to behaviors in the direction of meeting your needs. We give you homework to complete that will continue to facilitate your growth and appreciation of the needs of each of your subselves and those of your partner or partners.

IMAGO PROCESS: When we have established that you and your lovers in the orientation can listen actively–mirror, validate, empathize with, make behavioral requests–we have you take turns holding each other while you turn your relationship into a healing crucible. The imago process teaches you=2 0to defuse over-reactions to each other and to manage emotional reactions based the past you don’t distance each other now based on what happened before. You learn to release pent-up feelings and rescript once-appropriate but now-limiting rules. You learn to say what s/he wants without masking reactions. You request healing behavios and affirm your new openness. We give you homework to complete that will continue to facilitate your relationships and advise you on which of our dating, tantra, polyamory or shamanic groups would best suit you.

Orientation interview cost: $150.

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