by Sasha Lessin,Ph.D.
www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com

Introduction: The step-by-step exercise below helps you learn to relate intimately, sensually and sexually with lovers in addition to your sweetheart--your partner--in his or her presence, in a way that keeps you and your partner connected at the same time.

You feel connections between your partner’s levels of consciousness and your own. The levels of consciousness are chakras.

We all have security, sex, power, love, vision and spiritual chakras. In the training exercise, you feel the distinct energy of security, sex, power, love, communication, vision and spiritual chakras at particular locations in your body–perineum, genitals, diaphragm, heart, brow and crown, respectively. When you’ve felt the activation of your Inner Child in your perineum, your Sex Self at your genitals, Warrior at the diaphragm, Romantic at heart, Orator at throat, Visionary at brow and Spiritual subself at your crown, you can open and close any single chakra or combination of chakras to other people.

In Part 1 of the exercise, you and your partner practice opening and closing your chakras to each others’.

In Part 2, you open your chakras to a new person–who’s either your prospective new lover, or is roleplaying your prospective new lover. As you and your new person open your vulnerable, sexual, empowered, loving, psychic and spiritual chakras to each other, your partner and your new person’s lover watches you.

Part 3: You see your partner opening his or her chakras to a new person, the member of the other pair who, with you, watched your partner and his or her partner connecting. Again, the new connection’s made while your original partner simultaneously maintains contact you can feel to your chakras and your erstwhile co-witness’–chakras.

Part 4: You, your partner, your new potential lover and your partner’s potential new lover into 4-person, quadradic synergy. You experience group oneness with all four persons in your training group.

In group synergy, you stop feeling separate. You experience oneness with each other and together open spiritual dimensions so powerful you affect the morphogenic field of humanity. You invite the world to feel as one, as the four of you collectively feel joined in divine orgasm.

Form a two-pair (four person) training group consisting of two couples.

Part 1: CONNECT EACH OF YOUR CHAKRAS WITH YOUR PARTNER’S.

Sit face-to-face, yab/yum (one partner’s thighs around the other’s hips). Press your genitals against your partner’s. Reach your arms around your partner to his or her back. Rest one palm on your partner’s sacrum, one on the back of his or her heart chakra.

CHAKRA 1, safety, security, health, belongingness, trust center.

Chant "lam" with your partner, as you look into each other’s eyes.

Imagine opening a red rose in your perineum each time you say the syllable lam. With each rose you open, let your sense of acceptance and security with your partner grow.

You and your partner both tighten your anal sphincters each time after you’ve said lam.

In unison, say: "Your Inner Child’s safe with me. We’re here for each other. I care about your health and safety."

CHAKRA 2 Sexual center.

Press your genitals against each other’s.

Chant "Vam" together three times.

Each time you chant vam, imagine an orange rose opens in your genitals sends a blessing to the rose your partner’s opening in his or her genials. With each orange rose you open, let the sensual energy between your genitals and your partner’s intensify.

After you’ve said vam each time, tighten your pc muscles and feel the movement of penis and clitoris against each other as your pc tightening moves them and let your sensual connection amp up.

Say, "I delight you sexually.”

Men say: “I ejaculate when you say.”

Women say, “I bless you with my amrita (ejaculatory fluid).”

CHAKRA 3 Power center.

Press your bellies against each other’s.

Three times, chant "ram" together. Imagine, with each ram you chant, you both open yellow roses in your bellies. With each yellow rose you open, feel your mutual empowerment grow.

Each time you complete the word ram in unison, you and your partner tighten your diaphragms, then together, say,

"I’m happy to either lead or let you lead."

"I encourage you to take your power."

CHAKRA 4 Love center.

Rest your right palm on your partner’s heart in front. Reach your left arm around your partner and nestle your left hand on between your partner’s shoulderblades–the back of the heart chakra. Feel your hearts beating together.

Chant "yam" three times together and imagine, each time you say yam, a green rose opens in each of your hearts, and the energetic channel between your hearts expands.

Say to your partner, "I love you. I take in your love for me."

CHAKRA 5 Communication center.

Touch the fingertips of your right hand on your partner’s voice box, look directly into his or her eyes and together chant "ham" three times.

With each "ham" you say, open blue roses in your throat and you can feel your ability to say your truth with your partner in kind and helpful ways grows.

Say, "I tell my truth kindly and listen with love to you."

CHAKRA 6 Vision center.

Put your foreheads together and look upward into your partner’s eyes till his or her two eyes converge in your vision into a third eye. Let your partner’s third eye see deeply into you while you psychically probe your partner.

Maintain third-eye contact, chant "ooo" thrice and imagine each time you say ooo, that you open a purple rose between your eyebrows; your purple roset opens toward your partner's opening brow rose.

With each purple rose you open, open your vision center to understand, intuit and access archetypal visions of your relationship with each other.

Tell each other, aloud at the same time,"I think, intuit and envision for you and for our relationship."

CHAKRA 7 Spiritual center.

Tap the top of your head with your partner’s head with your fingertips.

Three times, chant "mmm" together and, as you say mmm, open thousand-petalled white lotus flowers on your crowns.

Together, say, "I flow energy between my crown and yours. I transcend my separate, individual self-sense and merge with you, with humanity, the Earth and the cosmos.

CENTRAL FLUTE: LAM, VAM, RAM, YAM, HAM, OOO, MMM TOGETHER

Three times together in single exhales, sing "lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm" (the entire Chakra Chant). Experience how your central channel of chakras vibrates, chakra by chakra, with your partner’s and sense each chakra’s message as you say its syllable together.

Each time you say lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm release all your air, keep your gaze on each other. When you’re both totally empty of air, you both suck your navals in toward your backbones and then up toward your throats (belly hold) tighten your pc muscles (pelvis hold).

Imagine energy streams up from your "lam" chakra through your "vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo" and "mmm" chakras and out your crown. The light of your chakras and the light of your partners meet and fuse above you.


Each couple does whole mantra once together.

Practice dimming and temporarily blocking your contact at each chakra.

Part 2: KEEP CONNECTED WITH PARTNER AS PARTNER CONNECTS WITH SOMEONE NEW

Sit yab/yum with one of the people from the other pair; we'll call this person "Newbe 1". Your initial partner--the one with whom you just opened your chakras–and Newbe 1's initial partner watch as you and Newbe 1 connect each of your chakras.

Use the same ritual (above) with Newbe 1 that you did in Part 1 with your partner.

Focus on simultaneously experiencing connecting each chakra with Newbe 1's chakras. At the same time, maintain your all-chakra connection with your original partner who witnesses you and Newbe 1 connect.

Newbe 1 also connects with you and stays aware of his or her connection with his or her intial partner. As you and Newbe 1 open your vulnerable, sexual, empowered, loving, psychic and spiritual chakras to each other, your partner and Newbe 1's lover watch you and Newbe 1. Your two watchers experience the persistence the all-chakra connection with their primary partners–you and Newbe 1–as you and Newbe 1 connect, chakra-by-chakra, with each other

Experimentally, you and Newbe 1, keep your chakras open to each other, but temporarily–for just a minute or two–block your connection with your watching initial partners, so you can experience the difference between a connection that’s maintained and one that’s blocked to a lover who is not the immediate object of your attention.

You and Newbe 1 keep your connection on all chakras with each other and re-establish connection at the same time with your watching initial partners.

You and Newbe 1 witness your respective partners connecting with each other. First, your partners keep connected to you and Newbe 1 as you-two watch them sitting yab/yum. Then, your partners keep their chakras open to each other, but block their connection with you and Newbe 1. Experience the difference between a connection that’s maintained and one that’s blocked.

Part 3: Everyone–-you, Newbe 1 and both of your partners--hug and open all your chakras to each other.

Discuss your experience.

Let me know how this experiment worked for you at sashalessinphd@aol.com