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For most American
live-in couples, evenings end with "I’m too tired
to make love" according to NEWSWEEK. 20%
of America’s couples share intercourse less than 10
times a year. This "bed death" causes relationship
death. But rejoice; the Daily Double Tantra Connect
offers an alternative to weakening libido and
breakups.
DAILY DOUBLE TANTRA CONNECTS
Wife Janet and I make love at least twice–usually
three times-- a day. We work at home and create our
own schedule, so scheduling's easy for us. We
recommend you and your live-in overcome your
individual scheduling needs and make dates to touch
souls and genitals twice daily.
3AM: I feel a gentle kiss on the lips. But then I
feel tickly whiskers and hear purring and realize
it's my cat, Cleo. Cleo wants me to feed her and put
her outside to pee. This accomplished, I work at my
computer till 7, do yoga till 8, then make breakfast
for Janet.
FOREPLAY FROM THE GETGO
I start foreplay–I fix tea, toast and turkey
bacon. Then, also foreplay, I hear and help her
expand her dreams, twilight imaging and plans for
the day. I focus on her, serve her and make her
receptive to afternoon lovemaking.
About 10AM, I bike to the beach or gym, swim or
lift weights, then pedal home. We eat, talk and
shower our afternoon delight-Honoring the Shakti
Shrine and Embracing the Bucking Bull.
AFTERNOON DELIGHT
I ask Janet if I can undress her. I say what I
admire about her body as I disrobe her. I invite her
to lie on her back, touch my right palm to her heart
and put her right hand on my heart. I Rest my left
hand on the back of her right. I say, "Put your
left on my right." We gaze deeply into each
other’s eyes.
I say, "I’m delighted to serve you, my
Shakti.
I love this intimacy. May my adoration heal hurts
I and others caused you. May our hearts join. Meet
me, your devotee, at the Yoni Nadi Shrine. There,
together, we transcend our separate self senses and
join the cosmic dance." Then I ask,
"What words have you to consecrate the worship
I offer?"
RUB HER RIGHT
I ask if she'd like a massage; she rolls onto her
belly and I gently tug her toes, rub her soles and
legs, massage her fingers, palms, arms, then back
and bottom. I help her turn over on her back. I keep
eye-contact with her as I massage her front; first
feet, hands, arms and legs. Then I glide my hands
over her torso, barely brush labia and nipples and
gently massage her belly. I pull her rectus muscles
from side to side and trace her ascending,
transverse and descending colon clockwise. I massage
her face and head. Finally, I stroke and knead the
muscles inside the leg (especially the gracilis
muscles, where the clitoris roots insert). I press
my fingers deeply into the muscles above her pubic
bone.
"May I touch your Sexual Shrine?" If
she consents, I connect all her chakras with sacred
sector energy. I rest my left hand gently on her
heart and hold my right hand over her yoni (vulva).
I beam love from my eyes into her left eye. We
breathe together three times, then I settle my hand
gently on her mons and say, "I love you.
Feel our hearts connect; energy vibrates between us.
I send you love as I breathe out; inhale it." I
exhale, draw my navel back toward my spine and up,
tighten my pubococcygeal and anal sphincter muscles
and imagine energy fountains up my spine from
tailbone, through my heart and out my right hand
into her yoni.
As I Inhale, I feel energy I sent her move
through her heart into my left hand. My right hand
stays on her yoni, my eyes stay on hers as I slowly
move my left hand to her crown. "Goddess of Love,
I invoke thee and invite thee to enter Janet’s crown
and move through her central channel to her
yonishrine," I say. Then I move my left hand to
Janet’s brow chakra. Successively I move my left
hand to her throat, belly and rectal chakras. For
each, we take three breaths, eye-gaze and connect
with each other energetically.
I say, "I'd like to fondle your drapes
and the skin over your pearl."
When she says, "Oh, yes; please," I say,
Make sounds and direct me with words; give me
feedback." I gently stroke her outer labia, roll
the clitoral hood around but avoid directly touching
the crown yet. When her outer vaginal lips swell and
reveal the inner lips, I softly trace circles,
spirals, horizonals, verticals, diagonals, and
figure-eights on them.
I alternate long, short, inventive, sensitive and
playful strokes, softly tap, knead and pinch the
hood and labia, then brush the crown.
POLISH HER PEARL, LICK HER LABIA, PET HER
PUDENTIA
When inner labia engorge, I ask, "Would you
like me to polish your pearl?" (pearl = clitoral
crown). As we hold our gaze, I blow on her outer
genitals, plant baby kisses and twill my tongue
round on her crown, lick her labia, flick my tongue
into her yoni. My mouth envelops her clitoral hood
and, through the hood, my lips stroke her inner
clitoris. I salivate generously; lubricate her
orifice.
After thirty minutes, I say, "I'd like to
enter your sacred cave with my finger." If she's
ready, I wet my right ring finger in my mouth and
softly touch her vaginal opening with my finger and
say, "Pull my finger in." When I feel her
vaginal muscles pulse, I ease my finger into her
cave. Inside her yoni, I curl my finger toward her
navel. The finger rests gently against her sacred
sector/Gspot/yoni nadi. We breathe ten
breaths together while I imagine my finger extends
energy from her yoni to her heart.
With the finger inside her, I trace a light "come
here" motion, caress her G-spot, slowly and softly
trace her cave’s the inner upper surface from cervix
to orifice as I kiss her pearl, lap her labia, wet
her with saliva.
I turn my wrist from side to side which moves the
finger inside her in a crescent-pattern on the
urethral sponge atop her yoni’s ceiling.
After fifteen minutes, I ask, "Would you like
two fingers inside?" She nods and I curl my
right middle and ring fingers together along her
yoni’s ceiling. I move these fingers up and down the
transom over the door and out the yoni, with a "come
here" motion–cervix to orifice. My left hand rests
gently on her belly and I press the ring and index
fingers of this hand above the pubic bone until I
feel my fingers inside push to meet my fingers that
press her abdomen externally. I create interactive
dances for my fingers inside her yoni and the ones
outside her belly. I feel her sacred sector swell
between the fingers on her abdomen and those in her
vagina.
I memorize which internal locations give Janet
pleasure.
ENCOURAGE EMOTION
If, while I touch inside, she tenses, numbs or
burns, I say, "Free associate–say whatever comes."
She remembers touch, sex and times that
traumatized or closed her down emotionally and
sexually. She relives and relates childhood events,
pastlives, fantasies, abductions, spirit
attachments.
She screams, cries, laughs, makes strange sounds.
"Let your feelings out, Sweetheart."
I hold her as she sobs and speaks to each person
who hurt or neglected her. If she tells me she's
angry at me, I say, "Louder. Let me know how mad
I make you."
When she's expressed all her emotions, I ask her
to fantasize, rewrite and roleplay the situation. I
ask her to create an affirmation that reinforces the
program she’d like to keep for situations that evoke
the hurt she emoted.
I keep my fingers inside on the spot that
triggered her catharsis as I enact her parent or
lover the way she wished they'd been.
When she relaxes, I move my fingers back and
forth from the area that stimulated the painful
memories and an area that felt good when touched
until she enjoys both places.
ENJOY HER EJACULATION
When Janet recognizes, releases and creates
alternative outcomes and we have paired the trigger
areas--areas that initially burned, hurt or felt
numb–with pleasure, she orgasms (spasmodically
contracts her vagina). I make sounds with her. As
she orgasms, she simultaneously ejaculates-dribbles
or squirts (a few cubic centimeters to several
ounces) divine nectar (amrita)--clear or
slightly milky, sweet- tasting, alkaline fluid from
her urethra into my mouth. I croon, "You're
beautiful," "I love you," "You're coming into your
power," and other affirmations.
These affirmations imprint powerfully as she
ejaculates. I keep my right hand in her Yoni and
hold her close. After several minutes, with added
lubricant, very carefully (to prevent tearing the
now-desiccated tissue), I withdraw my fingers. I lie
next to her, holding her tight, my hand on her yoni.
FEEL FINE WITH 69, THEN RIDE THE BUCKING BULL.
I lie back and we move into mutual oralgenital
loving. Janet turns about, kisses my lips, looks in
my eyes, slips my wand into her yoni, rotates and
pumps her pelvis around the wand.
I avoid ejaculating, I pull my belly toward my
spine then up (belly hold-uddiyana bandha)
and tighten pc muscles (mula bandha) when I
feel prostate and seminal versicles nearing
discharge. I save my seed for our evening tryst.
(If you don't have time for this full afternoon
connect, at least spend fifteen minutes sitting with
your legs over each others' hips or lying on one
another, gazing in each other's eyes. Let your
genitals touch. If you're a man-woman pair, stuff
the man's wand into the woman's cave, even if he's
limp. If the man has an erection, insert but don't
move. That's your preview of coming attractions;
save your energy for evening.)
After our afternoon connect, Janet and I work a
few hours, then walk through the woods to the
mailbox. I make dinner, we share our news, then go
upstairs.
BLESS YOUR EVENING LOVEMAKING
At night Janet lies on me. We breath together,
then syncopate breath-take turns, exhaling through
the mouth into the other's nostrils, saying,
"Take in my love, hold it in." and, inhaling,
"I take in and hold in your love."
I Imagine running energy from my perineum,
genitals, belly, throat, heart, brow and
crown--chakras into Janet's. We take three such
syncopated breaths for each chakra, bless each as
follows.
We pulse our anal sphincters and say, "I love
you. Feel your base and enjoy health, safety and
security."
We snuggle our genitals together, we say,
"I love you at your genitals, and bless your
sensuality, creativity and sexuality."
We touch bellies and say, "I love you in your
power chakra; take what's yours."
We rest our right hands on each others' hearts we
say "I send you love from the heart."
With our hands behind each others' necks:
"May you speak honestly and sing your true
songs."
We join brows and look up into each others' eyes
till they appear to merge, then say, " I
celebrate how you understand and intuit."
Finally, we flow energy between our crowns and
say, "I merge with you. May you experience unity
with the Universe."
ENGAGE IN EXTENDED LOVEMAKING, EMPLOY
HAND-ASSISTED TECHNIQUES
In positions top o that suit our particular
bodies (I'm 6'1", she's 5'2"), we make love.
After we kiss, twill, and play orally with each
other’s genitals, I lie on my back. Janet sits on my
hips and inserts my wand in her yoni. I reach my
right hand behind her buttocks and use this hand to
direct my wand’s angle and stroke in her yoni to
rub, churn and tap my wand tip against her favorite
internal erotically charged loci.
As her excitement builds, I very gently insert
the ring finger of my left hand into her rosebud. I
coordinate how I move this finger with the way I use
my other hand to move my wand in her yoni. Through
the tissue separating the yoni and rectum, I let my
finger and wand feel each other and respond together
to Janet.
After Janet's had as many orgasms as she wishes
and drenched me in amrita, she asks me to
roll over on her and release my seed as I look in
her eyes. We make ever-louder exclamations then roar
like lions as I squirt. I remain inserted several
minutes, then kiss her lips, whisper love words,
invite Cleo the cat onto the bed, read a little
Zecharia Sitchin, then sleep.
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