For many couples the answer is ejaculatory control.

When a man learns to ejaculate from choice rather than automatically, he moves his lovemaking to the highest levels of ecstasy possible for himself and his lover. If he masters the ability to hold his ejaculate and direct his sexual energy up his spine and out his crown into his beloved, he not only increases pleasure to unimaginable levels for both of them, he’ll eventually achieve full-body, kundalini and extended orgasms. By staying connected longer, he’ll reach new levels of love and intimacy with his sweetheart.

Ways to Help The Man Delay Ejaculation

There are many ways to master your ejaculate to gain control over the decision to squirt or not to squirt, some which you can do alone to condition your body and some you practice with your mate to condition your relationship.

In the Taoist sex tradition, men have orgasms without ejaculation and injaculates instead. They believe that by pressing an acupuncture point located halfway between the anus and scrotum (the Jen-Mo Point or Million Dollar Spot), that ejaculation can be reversed and the semen recycled from the prostate reabsorbed into the blood creating a better orgasm. The semen contains a great deal of the Vital Life Force and ejaculation represents a loss of vital energy, hormones and nutriends and early death. Cessation of ejaculation and menstruation is the avenue to perpetual life

The Million Dollar Spot

So, one of the most common and simplest ways to stop ejaculation is to reach underneath the scrotum and press the "million dollar spot", where the seminal vessels empty into the scrotum and stop the flow of semen by pressing on the base of those tubes. However, this is not the most advisable method as you are stopping the rush of energy (which is normally flowing downward) in an unnatural way and could cause small blood vessels to burst. It’s best to master control of your body and stop your ejaculation through managing your breath and pulling energy up and recycling the energy.

Yoga

Internal yogic holds (bandhas) are the key to ejaculatory control for many. Review the detailed description for bahdhas outlined in chapter 6. Master the three holds; throat hold, belly hold and pelvis hold and send energy out your crown into your beloved.

Learning how to control your own body and not using external pressure points is a far healthier practice. Recognize your body’s internal cues. If you reach that point where you feel it is inevitable that you will ejaculate, stop moving, pull the energy up and out your crown chakra and practice the yogic breathing.

To begin mastering your ejaculation, follow this simple procedure. Self stimulate or have your partner stimulate your penis raising the energy as you get excited. Use a numbering scale of 1-10 to measure your level of arousal. Ten is over the top and you have ejaculated. Nine is the point of ejaculatory inevitability, where you feel your seminal vessel about to empty and you’re close to coming. When you reach an 8, stop stimulating your penis, empty out all the air from your lungs, suck up your belly, imagine sending energy from your base chakra up through all the chakras in your spine and out the top of the crown into your beloved, and pulse your PC muscles. Pause a few minutes till you regain control and begin the cycle again.