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SHARE INTIMATE
CONFIDENCES WITH YOUR LOVERS
by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.
http://www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com
Enhance intimacy with your lovers. Preferably in person–but on the net or
video network or even by snail mail–and share your responses to the completions
below. Then ask each other for elaborations on the responses you share.
The idea is to know each other's emotions, thoughts, fantasies, hopes, fears,
secrets, wants, needs, shames, inner conflicts, joys, in short, everything about
them as well as you (hopefully) know their bodies and sexual preferences.
If you're doing this exercise in person, one of you read the sentences in bold
print aloud to your partners, then each of you answer. Read anything enclosed
in square brackets [like this] silently.
COMPLETE UNFINISHED SENTENCES
1. Say What You Fear, Desire, Hope For in Our Relationship
What l fear is ...
What I desire and hope for is ...
2. What Worked, What Didn't
The last time I wanted to (or did) scream or yell was ...
I wanted to yell because ...
The last thing that didn't work for me in my relationship with each of you was
...
What works for me now in relationship with you is ...
What I appreciate about my relationship you is ...
3. Separations, Onenesses
I feel separate from you when I think ...
I feel oneness with you when I tell myself ...
4. Share Deep Feelings
The biggest disappointments in my life were ...
The biggest challenges in my life now are ...
What I'm most afraid of is ...
My most destructive behavior pattern is ...
Here's what I think of you ...
5. Share More
My two most treasured memories of love are ...
I'd be willing to die for ...
The last time I cried was ...; what I was crying about was ...
Here's the hardest things about living with those in my home ...
The things that make those I live with a pleasure to live with are ...
6. Talk about Sex
The best and worst things about my sex life are
The features I like most and the ones I like least about my body are ...
One sexual fantasy I'd like fulfilled is ...
7. Expose What You like and Loath
What I like least about you is ...
What I like least about you is (or was) also my trait in this way...
What I like least about myself is ...
What I like most about you is ...
What I like most about myself is ...
8. Modify Your Lovers
If I could change you one way, I'd ...
I'd modify myself by ....
9. Disclose Dislikes, Discomforts, Demands for you
I resent ...
I want ....
10. Desires For Each Other
For you I want ....
11. Forgive
I forgive you for ...
12. Count Blessings
What I prize about our relationship is ...
What I value you is ...
13. Risk Sharing Secrets
You don't know I ...
The biggest mistake I ever made was ...
The most dishonest, dishonorable, things I've ever done were ...
The fears and hang-ups I have that I hide are ...
Two things I don't want you to know about me are ...
I risk our relation, revealing ...
If I had it to do over again I would/wouldn't get involved with you because ...
14. Declare Your Intentions
Before I die, I intend to ...
By ten years from today, I'll attain In five years, I figure I'll finish ...
For the next two years, my objectives are ...
This year, I'll ...
The next two months, I'll manifest ...
This month, I'll manage to ...
This week I'll ...
Tomorrow, I'll ...
Today I'll ...
15. Release at Decease
I want my Will to say ....
If I die first, here's how I'd want you to live out the rest of your life ...
16. Conjure Coming Incarnations
If I imagine a future-life relationship, after I've complete the lessons about
relations I learned in this one, here's what my future life would be like ...
The parts of the future-life relationship I imagine that I can create in this
life ...
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