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Giver, read bold cues aloud. Silently follow directions in square [ ] brackets. When you read out loud, emphasize italicized words. When you see
***, it's Receiver's cue to respond aloud.
Lie on your back. Relax. [Give him time]
Put my left hand on your heart, my right on your lingum (penis) and jewels (testicles) and put your hands
atop mine. Close your eyes. [Take three deep breaths, imagine sending energy into his heart through your right hand, receiving it through your left.]
Ok, let's gently release our hands; lower them. Feel your genitals--your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.
Reconsider your lovers from days gone. Tell me their names, I'll write them. ***
Lover 1 [Write it]
Lover 2
3. Etc.
For each lover on this list,
a) Tell me the YEARS you were involved and how old you were, *** [Write them next to the name indicated]
b) Say WHERE you were when you related to her, the key EVENTS in your relationship *** [Take notes next to the name indicated]
c) Tell me your EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL SHARING with each. ***
d) Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with each.
e) Summarize the events, sexual and emotional sharing and the developmental tasks we've experienced together. ***
f ) Imagine Lover 1 [Say her name] is before you. Toward her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with her ***
g) Express toward her any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn't get to say fully ***
h) Tell her your RESENTMENTS ***
i) As you imagine her before you, tell her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from her ***
j) Say, to her, your APPRECIATIONS ***
k) l her what you REGRET. Tell her what you FORGIVE her for ***
l) Tell [Lover 1 [Say her name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together. ***
m) FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better. ***
n) Bid her FAREWELL. ***
o) How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with
[Lover 1 [Say her name]? ***
p) How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me? ***
Imagine [Lover 2: Say her name] is before you. Toward her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with her ***
Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn't get to say fully ***
Tell her your RESENTMENTS ***
As you imagine her before you, tell her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from her ***
Say, to her, your APPRECIATIONS ***
Tell her what you REGRET. Tell her what you FORGIVE her for ***
Tell [Lover 2: Say her
name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together. ***
FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better. ***
Bid her FAREWELL. ***
How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with
[Lover 2: Say her name]? ***
How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me? ***
[Read Cues a) - n) for each lover on your Receiver's list; take notes after each lover's name.]
Male
Receives: Sexual Massage and Healing
(excerpted from Delight Dionysus: How to
Really Love a Man by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.)
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