Tantra Techniques for Chakra 2,  the Genital Chakra concerned with SEX, SENSUALITY, REPRODUCTION Part 3: Male Receives: Sexual Massage and Healing SUPRESS SAMPSON'S SQUIRT: EXERCISE EJACULATORY CONTROL Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. Contemplation - worldarterotica.com (excerpted from Delight Dionysus: How to Really Love a Man by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.)

     Men, to keep your utmost attention and sexual interest on your partner longer; avoid ejaculation. Don’t squirt from your lingam (penis) until you're ready to reduce your sexual excitation. 

    You might, if you’re older than 30, want to avoid ejaculating even longer--for a week or two. 

    But don’t avoid intercourse. On the contrary, enjoy intercourse at least once a day, as part of at least one of your two daily tantric connects.

    Tune into your body responses. Identify your sensations the moment before your moment of ejaculatory inevitability--the internal feedback you experience just before your seminal vesicles and prostrate empty.* When you feel the sensations that indicate ejaculation is imminent, stop vigorous pelvic thrusting. Hold your partner still too. Shift your attention to your gaze into your partner’s eyes, your hands and mouth (stroke, lick or kiss some very erogenous part of your partner), your voice (say something loving) or your breath.

    Breathe deeply. After you inhale, move your chin back toward your throat, but keep your neck straight and long (throat hold). Then exhale. While empty of air, pull your belly in and up toward your throat (belly hold). Tighten your base and pubococcygeal muscles–pretend you’re squeezing to stop urinating or prevent vacating your bowels (pelvis hold). Imagine pulling energy up from your base and genitals, up through your spine, out the top of your head and into your partner’s crown (instead of out your lingam as ejaculate). When you inhale, imagine you’re pulling energy into your genitals from you partners’. Imagine you and your partner are a single energy system, circulating love and energy.

* Avoid last-second ejaculatory blocking techniques such as squeezing the head of the lingum or pushing the external perineum into the ejaculatory duct, thus blocking it. Such mechanical interference with fluid being pushed out yet prevented from exit may damage the duct.