WHERE HAVE YOU GONE, JOE DIMAGGIO? Triad Misses Lad by Janet Kira Lessin

So many have come and gone in our lives. Some are still with us, in our hearts, minds and souls, but are not in our daily lives. Some enjoy coming for a while to hang out with us and play. Others are scattered to the four corners of the world to live lives, follow jobs and enjoy this expansive, brave new world that's opened up to this generation through the relative ease of global travel. We've been blessed to be alive during this time. In fact, I'm not sure how much longer the average person will have that luxury as now we're experiencing a collapse (hopefully just a restructuring) of our economic systems. But travel and connection, the luxury and ability to find one another at conferences and on the internet have made my polyamorous life and subsequent spiritual awakening possible.

Now it’s 2009. A year ago we had a New Year's Eve party. On that incredible night out on our deck, the night sky clear, chilly and full of stars, surrounded by our dearest friends, the New Year's fireworks exploded overhead as Sasha and I joined with Shivaya , married one another and declared our union forever sacred. On that magical evening, witnessed by our pod, we married and declared ourselves husband, wife and husband.

Now, Shivaya's gone. By Spring he’d left, moved to another island for a job and some time for himself. We waited a while and didn't hear from him. Then eventually we tracked him down through a mutual friend. We went to visit him early November. He said he'd come back before the end of the year. But New Years came and went; he called but didn’t return to Maui and us. I’m patient.

I still love him. But distance does affect the heart. Promises unfulfilled and the lack of significant contact over the year makes me feel uncomfortable. Hard to connect with someone who's not available. I avoid thinking of Shivaya so I won’t judge him. Sigh.

I return instead to gratitude for all who've been in my life. I've even learned lots about love by looking at my relations with lovers like Shivaya who've evoked strong negative emotions, like the abandonment I feel from him.

As I begin 2009, I’m open to new poly adventures. Could you be interested in me and Sash? I won't let you take him; he’s my Rock of Gibralter, the very fabric of my soul, the foundation upon which I build my life, the arrow that's pierced my heart. But if you’re kind to me and touch my heart and soul, and if you open my husband's heart and soul as well, I may decide to share my beloved with you and he may decide to share me with you.

Sasha and I make those kinds of decisions together. We come from a place of overflowing love and expansiveness. We're reflective and selective. When we find those who we envision will enhance our lives, we venture forth once again into the poly experiment to see what adventures the new connection might bring.

Polyamory's recommend only for brave pioneers ready to blaze new frontiers for expansive living and loving. It's not recommend for timid beings, afraid to feel and sometimes feel hurt.

But if you venture into the poly realm, you find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and the golden fleece. Sasha and I have a whole treasure trove and we're open to all that life delivers.

So stay tuned for 2009, the year divine when Sasha and I report to you from the cutting edge of the brave new world.

Happy New Year!

Dr. Janet and Sasha Lessin
Synergy Farm
Maui, Hawaii 96793
lessinsinlove@aol.com
808 244-4103

 

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