The Key to Creating Polyamorous Relationships

Would-Be polys write us regularly at the World Polyamory Association with questions about how to attract the additional man, woman or couple to co-create their ideal polyamous life.

All you need do is APPRECIATE WHAT YOU'VE GOT; don't suffer for what you think you lack.

For pairs seeking a third to create a triad or other pairs and
moresomes seeking more lovers, appreciating and celebrating those with whom you are already in relationship attracts candidates for your triad or pod. Bask in the joy of serving and sharing with the lovers you do have.

Your potential new lovers, just by observing you, get how uplifted you are in the relationship(s) you already have. And the right potential poly newbies will want some of that appreciative attention for themselves too.

For individuals, appreciating yourself–enjoying your life, accepting the dance of your inner selves, celebrating your blessings from moment to moment--makes you the kind of person potential lovers seek.

You need not, whether you be a single, dyad, triad, pod or network, detract from your joy from lack. You already have everything you need in relationships to completely enjoy yourself in every way. And you welcome further relationship abundance.

In Living Love terms: Uplevel your addiction to someone not yet in your lovergroup to a preference for, but not a suffering-causing addiction to someone who is not here for you now. Celebrate who is actually there, even if it's just you. Then if others join you, you have cornucopia, more than you needed, because you already have what you need and anything more is also joyously accepted. If you are addicted to finding others for your lovers, then celebrate your addiction too.