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Use intimate relationships to grow as an individual and create
lover synergy--more joy, zest and impact than you have alone.
You can create, maintain and develop passionate, loving, tender,
empathetic, challenging, responsible and fulfilling committed
relationships. Just follow these easily-learned, powerful
concepts and procedures.
*Let your lovers influence you. Be vulnerable to each other.
*Discover and encourage your unique identities.
*Learn from each other by the interplay of your differences.
*Honestly express in an atmosphere of trust, compassion and
commitment. Tell your beloveds what concerns you most in the
relationships. Do not threaten to leave. Keep communication
flowing in conflict.
*Caringly accept your sweethearts’ problems as signals for their
growth, without getting caught-up emotionally. Though you accept
each others' imperfections, continue to improve the
relationship.
*Let your conflicts show you which childish attitudes to
reprogram so you can enjoy each other more.
*Do not depend on your beloveds to make you happy. Make yourself
happy.
*Tell your love, to the degree they can handle them, things
about you, your feelings and thoughts about them and your
reflections you have withheld on your relationships. You build
thereby a base of absolute trust.
*Clear: express any annoyance, anger, resentment, and negativity
you have toward each other.
Then request what you want for yourself, for one another and for
the relationship. Do not expect your lovers to meet all your
requests. Agree to as many of their requests as you can while
maintaining your integrity. Find out why you each want these and
what you really need that motivates the specific requests.
*Next, tell your sweethearts what you want to give them.
Conclude by expressing your positive feelings, appreciations and
love. Count the blessings in the relationships. Then hug.
*Fulfill your potentials by encouraging your darling tofulfill
his or hers.
*Make the world more loving by fully loving your mate.
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World Polyamory Association 
