If you’re part of a couple that’s looking for, but haven’t found the poly lovers you want, don’t despair. Instead, in the couple of which you’re now part, love each other more. Appreciate what you’ve got, don’t suffer for what you’ve not.

     Apply non-attachment to polyamory. Celebrate you couple-relationship and you cease suffering about polyamory. Enjoy the present with your mate. If you and your primary don’t attract other lovers, you’re okay with each other and you don’t suffer. If other lovers do come to you–and they will–celebrate that too. Fully celebrate the relationship you have and new poly possibles present themselves plentifully. When Janet and I relate joyously to each other, new lovers appear. Message’s clear. Love your life as it now is and it gets better.

     Here’s the All-Chakra Tantra approach to enjoying your present pairing to the max and thereby promoting your poly possibilities.

Chakra 1, Encourage each other’s Inner Children to play and expose vulnerability.

Chakra 2: Enjoy mutual sensuality.

Chakra 3, Empower each other claim what’s rightfully yours.

Chakra 4: give and get romantic love.

Chakra 5: Communicate compassionately and authentically,

Chakra 6: Share thoughts, intuitions, visions,

Chakra 7: Experience your oneness with each other and the Universe.

My bet is the more you love each other at all levels, the more love you’ll attract from others.