POLY POD (Perspective 1) by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

"What'd you want for your 68th birthday?" Kira, my wife of 11 years
asked as she kissed me awake in our bed overlooking Maui's North
Shore.

"A love-in, this Saturday," I said, "You, me, Shivaya [the third in
our MFM triad] and the Pod." The Pod is our group of lovers, or
sometimes or maybe lovers–anyhow, the people we share erotic evenings–
love-ins-with.

"Okay if we celebrate Fagen's birthday too at the same
time?" "Sure," I replied.

Later, in our hot tub, I overheard Fagen invite Cassandra, who'd
been overwhelmed by the sexuality at an earlier pod celebration to
which she'd been invited. "Fagen, I don't think she's appropriate
for the Love-In I have planned. Kira wants to create sexual magic
for world peace. You saw how distressed Cassandra made herself when
she saw our sexual magic and pod sexual synergy last time."

Fagen stroked his beard, put his hand on my shoulder, "Don't worry,"
he said, "She said she isn't coming."

So Cassandra surprised me when she and Krish, a guy I'd never met
before, showed up at sundown Saturday for our love-in. "Fagen nagged
me till I just had to come to his birthday party. He said it would
be good for my growth to hang out with you and your friends
again." "Glad you're here." I said. Kira gave me a look that made
me think she wasn't glad Cassandra was here. Kira glared at Fagen.

We assembled on the mattress-covered floor of our living room, high
above the bay. Let me introduce you to who each of us is. Those
present wereTara and her new man, Sam; Pan, Sonja, Lola, Fagen,
Cassandra, Krish, Shivaya, Kira and I sat in a tight circle.
Cassandra, the youngest in our group–she's probably 30–seemed okay.
She looked quite beautiful, dark eyes, olive skin, melodious voice.
Krish, her escort, seemed friendly, open and experienced in group
synergy. Fagen told me he checked Krish out and Krish was okay.

Fagen, wiry, exhaused fixing our waterpump all day is our Major
Domo, makes our community work; today, he's 60. Tara, in her 40s, is
tall and voluptuous in a slinky gown. Tara does Sacred Spiritual
Dancing. In her day job she works as an environmental scientist.
Pan's a shrink and fellow athlete. Little Sonja, in her 40s, a
horticulturist, is slender and powerful-looking. Lola, with us for a
month now as Kira's assistant, has a ballerina's body, but her knees
are swollen. Shivaya put some healing energy into her knees as they
waited for everyone to arrive. Shivaya, sporting a goatee, is our
Wise Man; he'd for years hung with a world-renowned enlightened
teacher and Vedic scholar.

We joined Hands. "Visualize the top of your head, then each bone of
your spine, from neck, then back, reaches up toward spiritual
energy," I said. "As you breathe out, curl your tailbone forward,
toward your knees and imagine spiritual energy washing down through
you and each of us to the center of the earth. Bring spiritual
energy to the material plane. Center your consciousness between the
spiritual and material and sent energy around our pod circle, feel
the energy from the person on your left enter your left hand and, as
you exhale, pass through your heart and across your right arm into
the hand, then heart of the person on your right. Feel our connected
heart-chakra energy as we connect in the heartspace for our journey
this evening."

We lowered our physical hands and let our spiritual hands remain
joined. "Look silently into the eyes of each person in this circle".
For the night, we were a single closed community committed to
witnessing each other.

I told the group Kira and I would write our experiences this evening
for Allie Einstein to publish in an English magazine, and that
identities would be protected. Everyone was okay with this.

Shivaya turned over tarot cards to focus on what we intended to
experience tonigh, and each of us declared our personal and spiritual
intentions. "No matter what anyone else did, I intended to join
Shivaya in a Lovemaking ritual focused on Kira, here in the Living
Room Tonight–and soon. Seemed to me--at the time–that everyone
cheered.

We stretched out on our backs and Shivaya played Astarius's "Dream
Awake" induction to open us individually and collectively to higher
consciousness.

We performed "Sentient in the Center, a tantra experience where each
person present takes a turn receiving group massage. Cassandra took
a leading part in making sure each person got what they asked."

Then, from my perspective, of course, Aphrodite possessed Kira.
Shivaya and I morphed into her divine lovers. We began adoring her.

"Stop, Cassandra said, "I feel uncomfortable with you having sex in
the middle of Fagen's birthday party."

"Sweetheart, " Kira said, "This is Sasha's birthday. You can go
down to the hot tub or close your eyes but tonight Shivaya and I
celebrate our relationship in this pod. You can witness, or go down
to the hot tub and meditate. Resume adoring me, Sasha, Shivaya."

"Come on Cassandra", Fagen beckoned, we agreed to keep at least one
member of the group with us at all times. I'll take you to the tub."

We three, Kira, Shivaya and I did our love dance. Tara took her
man, Sam, off to love him in a breakaway cabin. I went down to the
tub, talked to Cassandra, who said she didn't know this was the pod's
sexual celebration; she thought it was just a birthday party for
Fagen, and that she'd have a chance to clear with me, to tell me how
upsetting she'd found our open eroticism at the gathering before. I
empathized with her and returned to the celebration in the living
room. We spent a few hours meditating on bringing loving oneness to
the male and female parts of each person, to the dyads, especially to
mine with Kira. With Shivaya in our triad, with the love pod here
tonight, and with Cassandra, down at the hot tub. We said goodnights
and Kira gathered Shivaya and I to the bedroom for our grand
climaxes.

Next morning, we shared our experiences. We had the opportunity to
hear each person's experience. I'll post their emails when received.

POLYAMOROUS PODNERS(Poly Pod, Perspective 2) by Janet Kira Lessin

When I was a child, couples of my parent's generation, the
World War II era, married in their late teens or early twenties and
stayed together till their deaths approximately fifty years later.
The traditional family was a nuclear one–Mom, Dad and 2.5 children.
Divorces were rare and full of shame. And if, heaven forbid, parents
divorced or remarried, stepparents were demonized in movies and
literature as "evil"and something to be feared or hated.

This reality, dominant in the 1940s and `50s, began to erode
in the `60s until now, fifty years later (I'm now 54) single parent
families dominate and there are more households with a single adult
than couples or families. Most couples nowadays are unmarried and
many couples are of the same sex. The nuclear family is
practicallynon-existent. Stepparents co-parent, raise and support
children and siblings, blood and adopted--of all races, colors and creeds.
Society experienced a wide variety of extreme and often horrendous birth pangs
leading to the creation of this new, modern family. We've adjusted to a new,
formerly non-conventional family system that seems to work and have created a
new cultural "norm".

How long will this structure of ad hoc living groups last?
Based on what's come before and how much we've changed since WW2,
what's next?

Hidden in the dark recesses of human society are the highly
feared, politically predicted members of the dreaded "slippery
slope", the fall-out from legalizing same-sex marriages, the POLYS.
Polys, polyamorous peoples-- those who love more than one in an
intimate relationship-- are the logical, next-step, progression for
our new, non-traditional extended families. Now, as a society, we
have fallen in love, made babies with partners, divorced, mated,
married, made babies with more partners and are coming together to
sort out our feelings and relationships to one another.

We're ready to question the cultural assumption that we must
stop loving those we love in order to love those we love? What an
insane concept, so far from the "reality" of what actually happens.
Somewhere in my early twenties, when I was NOT mature, grown up or
far-from spiritually sophisticated, it dawned on me that I was living
a culturally induced lie. I thought, I believed I had to stop loving
my early, childhood lovers in order to love my husband whom I had
recently married. But, when I looked inside my heart, I knew, I
realized that I still loved Kenny, Keith and others that made my
teenage heart soar. The lie was what I had told myself in order to
move on and live a socially imposed concept that now, since I got
married, I could only love my husband. What bull! With that
realization, I was set free! My heart could now be true to itself.
Now, if only I could tame the shame and blame part of myself, then I
would be fully free to be who I truly was.

POLYAMORY: THE HEATHIEST NATURAL RELATIONSHIP STRUCTURE

Fast forward to today. I now live polyamorously. I live the
subconscious dream Americans have been acting out unconsciously.
Polyamory, I affirm from my research and from my direct experience
as a participant, is the most healthiest and natural relationship
structure ever. Polyamory follows the natural formation and ebb and
flow of tribes and families.
The culturally imposed conditioning of limiting love, shaming
and blaming individuals away from following their hearts and natural,
body biorhythms, attractions and impulse led to the deterioration of
our families, mass confusion and family dysfunction with offshoots-
crime, violence, illness, death, destruction and ultimately, war.

I live and love in a poly POD–a lovers' group--my
relationship style of choice. I enjoy a primary relationship with my
husband, Sasha, as well as a close, secondary relationship with
another man, Shivaya. Sash, Shivaya and I are a TRIAD; we love to
make love together. We're also part of a poly pod, six to twelve
adults who come together on a regular basis and share love, intimacy,
sexual energy and relate to one another in ever-changing ways. In the
pod, we have no sexpectations. We simply enjoy the natural rhyme,
rhythm and reason of our bodies, hearts, souls and minds.

Within our poly pod, besides my triad, there are two couples.
The rest are singles; we have two new single men and one new single
woman. We remain open for others to join us, but are complete
inasmuch as we are and not desperate nor necessarily actively seeking
new members. We follow the natural flow of our group energy and as it
feels right and we discuss bringing new people into our group when
someone super cool comes into our lives.

We don't want to shock anyone, so we make sure we interview
new members thoroughly. We desire to maintain the integrity of our
group, so all activities, members' identities and meeting places are
confidential. We usually screen carefully so we don't put a damper on
our gathering with those who are not ready for such deep relating and
intimacy.

We've been pretty successful in choosing appropriate people,
but every once in a while we invite someone who's a bit of a dud and
freaks out in some fashion and can't handle our vibes. We deal with
them emotionally and psychologically, try to see what's been
triggered within them and help them heal, learn, grow and expand. If
they don't enjoy being with us, we don't invite them back and they
don't want to come, so that's a win/win. We're learning the hard way.
We are pretty unattached, so if something doesn't work out, we don't
try to convince someone to stay and work it out. But if we find a
great, new connection, that's awesome and we celebrate our new
beloveds to the max.

While we sometimes have guests, for the most part, our grouphas a
pretty secure core group which has been meeting on a regular
basis for about six years and others who come and go around us. Our
coming together is about sharing love, sensuality, massages, intense
conversations, laughter, healthy food and intimate connections.
Sexual intimacy varies over time with the individual participants.
Each time we meet, sexual intimacy between individual members is up
for negotiation.

While our gatherings are mostly about sharing love, intimacy,
sensuality and sexual energy, raw sex does happen. So be prepared.

When I get going. I love to have tantric orgasms for hours on
end. Others podners catch my orgasmic energy wave and the whole
atmosphere gets very electric. We make pulsating puppy piles. We
have our cake and eat it too. It's all good.

Several of our podners have birthdays in July. This year, we
let one of our members invite a couple of newbies and weren't as
thorough with our screening as usual.

So there we were in the middle of our July birthdays love-in
when Cassandra, one of our female invitees, freaked out when my triad
wanted to engage sexually in the middle of the living room floor.
We'd been making love in the center of our group for over six years
now. Our lovemaking's become of a pod tradition. We begin our
lovemaking ritual and everything else, from massage to music to other
configurations and couplings goes on around us.

Just as Sash and Shivaya started connecting sensually with
me, Cassandra suddenly protested. She shocked me out of my erotic
spell. I realized we were being challenged. Bad as that was, worst
of all, for some reason, I allowed myself to be stifled and took my
triad back into my bedroom to make love.

In the bedroom, I enjoyed myself with my men but I felt odd.
After a while, I got pissed at myself for allowing Cassandra to
stifle me. After all, this is my home and we were celebrating my
husband's birthday party. I was confused. I wanted to honor
Cassandra's requests and please her. Yet at the same time, I wanted
to celebrate like there's no tomorrow because after all, it was my
honey's birthday. And, besides, I hadn't really cut loose and had a
day off in a month of Sundays and I just wanted to hoot, holler and
rock and roll in endless waves of tantric orgasms.

Next day, in our sharing circle, I tried to relax and get inthe
spirit of it all. Most of our pod members were glowing. We had a
super time, were laughing for hours. But once again, when it came to
Cassandra's time to share, she criticized, scolded and chastized my
triad for getting sexy in the living room. Dah, I thought that's what
this was about. Anyway, I realized Cassandra was far too sexually
wounded to be a part of this gathering. How'd she get past Fagen, our
bouncer? But I guess, every party has a pooper, that kind of thing.
But we got to the bottom of it all and figured out the misconceptions
and expectations and apologized and compromised and vowed to never do
whatever it was we did "wrong" again.

We continued sharing our experiences from last night's love-
in. Sonja shared how she had wanted to make love in the center of
the group with her new lover, though she wasn't ready to share him
sexually with anyone. Sonja and Sam are a new pair and still in a
monogamous stage. But she enjoys group sensuality and likes to be in
the erotic energy and enjoys being watched. So, when Cassandra
complained last night about my triad, Sonja felt bummed, stifled and
thought of going off to go to one of the breakaway rooms to make love
with Sam. She said she felt pulled back into the group as she tried
to leave because she didn't want to be away from the incredible group
sexual energy I and my lovers were creating.

I listened to Sonya and all the others who shared and despite
repeated interruptions by Cassandra, I stuffed it for a while. Then
I grew impatient after nothing any of us said or did seemed to be
sufficient to satisfy Cassandra. When it came to my turn to share, I
said, "Hey, we have orgies here. That's what we do. And, I must say,
they're damned good ones. But next time we'll screen better and have
all participants sign a waiver at the door so that they clearly
understand that our party's a red tantra party, that means sexy
party. From here on out, we're going to make love and play like we
want for it's my party and I'll make love if I want to."

So, that's my report on our July 08 pod love-in. The moral:
be true to yourself. In the end I ultimately spoke my personal truth.
But I spoiled a good part of the evening for myself by not being
authentic and sticking up for me and my lovers and allowing myself to
be tortured with internal shoulds and attempts at being polite--which
I'm never very good at that anyway.

No two pod gatherings are ever the same.

While the world may want to romantacize tantric love-ins we're real
people and shit happens. But shit creates SHIFT and despite it alland
because of it all, I wouldn't chose any other way of doing my
life. Each time our pod gets together, we grow exponentially. The
whole is much, much greater than the sum of its parts. We personify
that saying with revelations and love we gain through our intimate
connections. I highly recommend poly podding for everyone yet I
realize the world may not yet be ready.

I hope this article and others that I and my lovers write
inspire you, the reader, to expand and find love that really works
for you. Relationships are intense, difficult, profound and
rewarding. There's a cost to having successful relationships.
Relationshops need to be nurtured and take a lot of work. Each person
ultimately needs to go within and examine the programming creating
existential angst and projection onto partners, friends, families,
lovers and community.

If one relationship's hard, imagine what it takes to do
polyamory. Most young folks begin with step one, monogamy, before
they expand into more complex relationship structures, like
polyamory. Polyamory and lifestyles like swinging take maturity and
personal integrity, honesty and responsibility. In ethical
polyamory, you are candid and you also avoid hurting other people.

The internet offers tons of resources for those venturing
into polyamory. Local support groups and conferences springing up all
over the world. Explore this lifestyle with folks who live it. Since
our main cultural conditioning has been monogamy, it may take a bit
of studying and work to transition yourself, friends and family to
this new paradigm of relationship choice and ethical polyamory. The
gay/lesbian rights movement has blazed the trail. We are most
appreciative. Thank you also for swingers. You too have shifted
society and opened up some eyes (and minds). The slippery slope gets
slipperier. But where we're sliding to is a good thing, for it allows
each and every one of us freedom to chose who we want to be.
***

POLY LOVE PODS by Janet Kira Lessin

After fifteen years of active polyamorous dating, I
discovered the style that works best for me–the "poly love pod."
The poly love pod is a group of beloveds that meet frequently to
share love, intimacy and erotic energy. Each of these beloveds love
me, and I love each of them.

I let go of my prior attachment to other poly relating styles
after I struggled hard to make them happen. I searched long for ever-
elusive poly folks willing to commit to eccentric me and mine. Now,
however, I surrender to what's actually happening. When I stop
trying to create the impossible, I realize I'm already in bliss, in
love with my pod.

In a poly love pod, some pod members share sexual lovemaking,
but sexual intimacy's not required between all pod members. We
members affectionately call ourselves "podners." In our pod, the
Lessin Pod, we share love in ways that seem right in the moment. The
pod system of relating lets us connect safely. If you apply this
model to your relationships, you can connect intimately with others
in a system where you're authentic, explore your personal truths,
express your emotions and share energy with your podners based on
what you feel in the now.

In the Lessin Pod, we make no demands of each other, only
requests. We needn't be heterosexual, bisexual, gay, or even sexual
at all. We mix and merge with whomever in the pod we desire, in
whatever way we want as long as everyone involved consents. Our pod
environment, free from demands, creates the ultimate feeling of
safety, lets us express ourselves fully and authentically. We're
free to show who we truly are as we change and grow; our podmates
accept us for who we are as we evolve.

The Lessin Pod--four to twelve adults--meets often and shares
love in sacred ceremonies. We stay open to new lovers; our pod
welcomes new lovers with whom we can synergize–create more positive
energy than the sum of our individual contributions. To determine
whether candidates for inclusion in our pod will be synergistic, we
each get to know each prospective new podner in depth. We discuss
candidates, reach consensus and ceremonially welcome them to the pod
with a tantric ritual. With ritual, we make our lovesharing special,
spiritual, sacred. As a group we heal faster, learn from our
interchange, grow, build trust, feel safe and evolve to higher levels
of awareness and consciousness.

April '06, our pod gathered at our home in the jungle of Maui
for twelve days of sharing, then continued our communion with each
other at the World Polyamory Association's Annual Harbin Hot Springs
Northern California Conference in May, that year. On Maui we
explored new ways to create conscious community, ways to share
resources, earn right livelihood and continue what we love most:
educational and celebrative tantra, polyamory, song, dance and
healing workshops, conferences and events. We surrendered our souls
to a days of love, lust, fun, laughter, friendship and intimacy.
During our April love in–intense, dramatic, life-changing,
with obstacles and hurdles–some podmates grew closer, others
discontinued their sexual relating, still others redefined their
sexual status. Certain members who were open sexually to each other
the last time we met weren't as sexual with each other this time.
Lovers shift and share in different ways every time they meet. We
get our fill of one partner then need to explore others next time we
come together. Free of judgements, we ebb and flow. Whenever we
notice ourselves judging, we explore our inner critics and
criticisms. No matter whom we connected with in the pod, the love
stays strong among us each and all. We support each other through
tears, anger, bliss. We vowed to continue sharing at the Harbin
PolyCon May12.

At Harbin, once again, I blew my mind. Just when I thought
I'd found enough love, thought I'm so full I could burst, I fell in
love with more people from among the wonderful folks at the
conference. Even poly newbies who attended were mature, open and
evolving fast and their transition to loving more, healing, accepting
others and more expansive ways of relating made everything easy and
relaxed. I opened my heart more, had a good time and didn't feel
stressed though I was responsible for putting on this conference. I
mixed work with pleasure and the work felt like like fun. At last, I
thought, I've arrived; everything was perfect except for one thing.
I was challenged and destabilized by what my husband Sasha did.

At the previous conferences I've run, I felt stressed getting
everyone registered at the conference, answering questions and
managing everything. This conference, just as I relaxed, Sasha, as
part of a partner exercise in Scott Longwell's workshop, expressed
intense emotions. All in the room turned their attention to Sash,
and I thought everyone could tell Sash's emotions were aimed at me.
I was shocked and embarrassed. I want Sash to explore these issues
(as the emotions leaked into our daily lives), but I want him to
explore in private, not in this public place where I run everything
and need to maintain my cool.

Michael held me as I watched Scott skillfully lead Sasha
through his pain. I felt Sasha's pain and cringed as he emoted.
Michael comforted me as Scott finally led the group back to their
partner processes. I forced a smile, choked back tears and
internally processed my emotions. I shifted my focus to Michael
whose turn it was in the process to express his emotions. I didn't
have time to fully express my feelings but I pulled myself
togetherand carried on. Before the conference ended the Universe
provided help in ways I couldn't have imagined.

For the rest of the conference I followed the poly path to
the loving oneness with all--our natural state--and fell in love with
several new people. As I encounter more people who heal the illusion
of separateness, I feel safe with them, open to love sharing with
them because I feel our oneness. On my Higher Self level, I know I
love everyone. I have a huge capacity to love. Though my Ego Self
believes I'm limited by time I realize time's an illusion. My Ego
partitions life, makes judgments based on time and decides with whom
to connect. In the past, my co-dependency and expectations caused
much pain and anguish for me, my partners and potential partners.
Now I just love. From this freedom, love grows naturally. Lovers
and I gravitate to where we need to be and find ourselves with those
with whom we most need to share love.

In the divine perfection of the universal plan, I found
myself in the hot-tub at Harbin talking with K. Although I'd known
K for many years, he was a newbie to our pod. He'd visited us during
our April love-in on Maui. We'd kissed and cuddled then, but lacked
time to fully explore our connection. I encouraged K to put his time
on Maui into another of our podmates, J, to whom he was attracted
and who needed his help. K's a great counselor. J was having
difficulty detaching from a long-term relationship that was falling
apart and changing form. I'm compersive and enjoyed K loving J.
Until now at Harbin there'd always been some kind of obstacle to K
and I fully sharing love. This year with Kirsten and Mike helping
manage the conference, I had time enough to consummate my love for K.

Sasha, busy MC-ing the conference, gave his blessings for me
to make love with K. Sasha and I always, in advance, clear intimate
connections with one another as part of our relationship commitment
to total honesty and finding lovers that work for both of us. If one
of us makes love with someone, that person affects us both
energetically. We never get involved with anyone who doesn't
resonate with both of us. In addition, Sasha knows I'm workaholic
and rarely take time for myself. He encouraged me to connect with K,
whom he likes and respects as a good ally. Sash was delighted K
helped our other podmate and said K'd make not only a good lover for
me, but an excellent podner all of us in the group.

K and I enjoyed our lovemaking. Making love for the first
time with someone's always interesting. How do we fit? Do our
bodies align? What positions will work? Will he, without
takingoffense, take direction as to how I like to be touched? Can we
connect physically so I can have an orgasm? Can he maintain an
erection without ejaculating so he don't finish before I climax? Can
he kiss without causing brush burns on my face? Can I move past
thinking of all these things and just enjoy the moment?

I have to laugh. An Aquarian, I'm always thinking; it's hard
for me to surrender to lovemaking and stop thinking so much. Now
that I'm no longer make connections from the "falling in love"
standard of yesteryear, I have to teach myself how to "grow in love"
and take things slower, appreciate each individual and his or her
unique way of connecting. I have to reprogram myself and learn "how
to love" in new ways outside of the old romantic, co-dependent
paradigm I followed in previous, monogamous relationships.

In the busy-ness of business, I didn't really get to connect
fully with my pod-ners during the conference. What's amazing is that
while I didn't get to connect all the ways I like with my podmates at
the conference, I still felt my oneness with them. The love I feel
for them grows exponentially every time we meet. My podmates and the
new people we connected with at the conference floated in the same
level of awareness and consciousness all weekend. Without touching
or even speaking, we maintained our connection.

I didn't have to take care of any of my podmates; each was an
independent ambassador of love. Each reached out and connected with
one or more others. They connected with the new people that
gathered, made everyone feel loved, welcomed and accepted. As a
result, our pod grew into a tribe. Our connections are deep,
intimate and profound. They're more than our physical selves. While
lovemaking and physical connection is usually one of the primary
focuses of polyamory, I've become aware of the non-local connectivity
of our global, poly family. To me polyamory feels like a spiritual
movement as well as a socio-political one.

Next, our expanded tribe will now go out and connect with the
world. Each time we gather, our collective consciousness expands and
we realize how much we CAN do to make effective changes on this
planet. We're no longer helpless individuals; we're now a powerful
collective able to free all people so that they too, now and forever,
can chose relationships they want.

After the conference finished, I tried to clear my distress
with Sasha for airing his emotions toward me in Scott's workshop. We
were both exhausted, sleep-deprived and stressed, so my best
attemptsfailed and I made things worse because we argued. I hate
fights.

Frustrated, issues unresolved, we decided to sleep and talk again the
next day. But the next day, we again fought. Destablized because we
had a deadline to check out of Harbin, I got more and more anxious as
I hurried to pack. How did I get all that stuff in the suitcases in
the first place? Despite my best attempts to control myself, I
barked at everyone. I needed everyone to get out of my way so I
could think and pack without leaving anything behind.

I turned around to grab something and Terry, one of the
conference attendees and friends (lovers?) with K was standing right
inside the door of my room. "Oh, she's come to say goodbye. That's
nice", I thought and secretly wanted her to hurry up and leave
because I really had to get out of there. She excused herself and
left, nodding politely. But she soon returned and tried to talk with
me. She's a trained NVC (Non-violent Communications) expert and was
there to facilitate me and Sasha, if I wanted her help. Terry
expertly helped Sasha and me regain our centers and re-connect. I
think there's a higher purpose for all that happens, especially what
I perceive as negative. I think the higher reason Sasha and I fought
was to create the situation for Terry and me to connect.

Terry and her partner, Steve, said they planned to come to
Maui. We decided to have them come stay with us at our community.
K, excited at that news, decided to return to our place on Maui with
Terry and Steve. Jaiia, Sasha and I felt that Terry and Steve coming
to Maui is the next logical step to further explore our connections;
we unanimously decided to open our hearts and home to them.

My heart's full of love and gratitude. I'm so glad to be
poly, to have the opportunity to host conferences with my incredible
team of co-presenters and beloveds. I'm so looking forward to the
next time and hope to bring this loving energy to more parts of the
globe.

Home at last, I've settled back in my nest with the Maui
branch of our pod. We still have our issues, just like anyone else.
We hope that with NVC and the other communication technologies we
use, we can clear these issues. There's something warm and fuzzy
about creating a family out of friends and lovers that you're drawn
to rather than limiting yourself to only one partner and your
relatives. We truly can have it all, the best of all worlds.

Tell us about your PODs.

Janet Kira Lessin, Chief Focalizer of the World Polyamory
Association and Dr. Sasha Lessin are featured presenter at the annual
Harbin Hot Springs (CA) Polyamory & Tantra Conference September 11-14. They
offer a workshop entitled " RITUALLY EVOKING FEMALE EJACULATION IN A POLY POD
CEREMONY"at the Conference. See www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com for details.

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