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Poly conferences and tantra confabs provide participants
perfect places to
contact potential lovers and tantra buddies. At conferences
like the "Create and
Enhance Conscious Polyamorous and Tantric Relationships" at
Harbin Hot Springs
California this Sept 1-13, Network for a New Culture and the
Poly Community at
Burning Man in August, you can meet and quickly get to know
people with whom you
might fall in love--or at least in attraction enough to know
if you want to
consider as possible intimates.
Some polys and tantricas get together in these conferences
every year with
lovers from other parts of the country, meet new lovers,
learn techniques to
make multiple intimacies ever-more satisfying.
Poly and tantra newbies learn in the conferences from us
old-timers what works
well as we wean ourselves from the monogamous matrix and
find freedom and
fulfillment with new soulmates and pod participants.
Some folks are monogamous most of the year but celebrate
polyamory and tantra at
conference time. Others make contacts and make arrangements
to get together
beyond the conference, even to create tantric relationships,
polyfidelous
families or ongoing poly pods.
The seminars at a conference like the Harbin World Polyamory
and Tantra
Conference offer structured relating exercises, discussions
of pair dating, open
marriage, triad formation and maintenance, as well as cuddle
parties, group
massage and yoga classes where you can talk to, touch and
interview like-minded
folk who, like you, seek tantric friends, multiple lovers
and a community that
supports tantric and polyamorous lifestyles.
The seminars teach you how to advertise yourselves on the
internet, deal with
straight relatives, employers and Sarah Palins. Presenters
like Chris Ceri teach
you how to create your own discrete erotic parties in ways
that ensure everyone
has a good time. Chris leads a tantric ritual Saturday night
that opens all your
chakras.
At the WPA Harbin Polycon this year, Fred Burks, a towering
heart-centered
polyamorous luminary and Keith Brown led Zegg-forums, a
powerful method of
working out feelings in the polyamorous community in ways
that avoid destructive
penting up or escalating tension. Dr. Dave Doleshal shared
the latest technology
for ameliorating jealousy and yours truely shows you how to
use your jealousy to
grow and create empathy (compersion). Moses Ma shared his
vision of
polyamory as the future of relationships. There were poly
rituals, erotic
parties, hot tubs and meals together in a beautiful country
setting, where
everyone around you dug the same deal: loving beyond the
dyad, a chance to
actually try-out the techniques Dr. Harold Haridas Kornylak,
one of Margo
Anand's co-presenters taught in his seminar. Counselor Terry
Brussel-Gibbons
remained at our beck and call throughout the conference,
when we wished
individual, pair or group coaching.
Conferences like these, springing up all over the U.S. and
Europe, let you know
you are not alone. You can love more and have more love for
yourself and enjoy
your lovers loving more. You learn there are techniques to
keep loving more
pleasurable and growthful and trandform potenitlly painful
interaction into
ecstatic multiperson loving. |
World Polyamory Association 
