The World Polyamory Association Presents


2004 SOUTHWEST REGIONAL CONFERENCE
LOVING BEYOND THE MATRIX
Aliso Creek Inn, Laguna Beach, CA

October 22-24, 2004
Friday Oct 22, 2004   Terrace Room 
9:00 AM

Registration Desk Opens

10:00 - 11:00AM 

Orient to Polyamory Janet Kira Lessin & Dave Doleshal
Janet and Dave orient all to the conference. They,  oldtimers and newcomers question each other and share experiences.

11:00 - 11:20AM Welcome to the Conference, Schedule and Logistics
11:20AM - 12:30PM

Pods for Intimate Community Sasha Lessin
We play-first wordlessly. Then we talk and join small (6 -12 person) groups. Our group is our pod. Our pod supports us getting what we want at the conference and in life. Throughout the weekend, we talk with our pod mates about what we learn about poly loving. To prepare for experiences Shama, Don Kraig and Harold Kornylak lead, we imagine taking new lovers into our net. We roleplay joining established lovers. Tomorrow we report how we're doing fulfilling fantasies.

12:30 - 1:30PM

Lunch

1:30 - 2:30PM

Touch with Intention  Les Nuckles 
This presentation teaches people to touch and/or be present using focus and intention. There's some lecture with lots of hands-on time. This workshop prepares attendees to get more from the workshops that follow and to be better able to connect with others.

2:30 - 3:30PM

How to Enter an Established Poly Relationship Shama & Don Kraig
Learn to be a successful third, fourth, or fifth wheel! Navigating the waters smoothly when entering an established relationship can be rough. Shama & Don reveal important pointers that make the journey easier. You learn the most important aspects of how to deal with exciting dynamics a new person brings; the wonders and the potential pitfalls. Learn to create balance and harmony in triads and beyond. Explore practical skills including communication tools that can be used immediately to enhance and expand the quality of all your relationships.

3:30 - 4:30 PM

On Agreements Dawn Davidson &
"Safer" Agreements Agreements are one of the cornerstones of successful relating, in all aspects of our lives. We'll cover how to make more successful agreements, what should and shouldn't be in a safer sex agreement, and how to make agreements regarding emotional safety. We'll also discuss the agreements in our lives we're usually not even aware of. We will cover why agreements fail, and how to help insure their success. We'll also discuss how to recover when they fail. We'll be spending out time together in a combination of lecture, interactive discussion, and exercises

4:30 - 5:30PM

The Bi-Poly Options for the 21st Century Ed Jor-El Elkin
Explore bi-sexual polyamorous relationship in a safe and supportive environment. This workshop is for all levels of interest, especially for the Bi-Curious as well as the Bisexually experienced. A theoretical and experiential guide to the Bi-Poly option with guided imagery, pair and multiple partner exercises. Using movement and dance, transformational theater and role-playing exercises with opposite sex and same sex partners, we explore the bi-poly option in fantasy and in "reality".

5:30 - 6:30 PM

Dinner, Songs by Sophia Songhealer
Sophia's songs coronate archetypes of love, beauty, strength, joy, Compassion and wisdom to reign in our hearts.

6:45 - 7:00 PM

Polyamory: Love Beyond The Matrix Janet Kira Lessin
Janet invites you to set aside who you think you are and reorganize brain cells and emerge from this conference, able to stand proud and say, "I'm polyamorous" and love beyond the matrix. 

7:00 - 8:30 PM

Tantra Ritual for Polys Sophia Songhealer
Sophia's ceremonial songs move us through energy exchanges that uplift and support all-chakra connecting

8:30 - 10:15 PM

Beyond the Dance of Two Harold Kornylak
An enduring, fulfilling two person partnership is rare enough, even most animals tend to pair bond, so is it totally impractical to think of expanding beyond the dyad, perhaps to 3, or 4? Well, for those who enjoy the challenge, lets explore some of the unique dynamics when more than 2 relate together. How do we keep a triad from being a pair plus one. Get some insight into your own relating styles and how compatible these styles are with going beyond the dyad. (Discussion and experiential exercises).

10:15 - midnight

Tantric Polyamory   Shama & Don Kraig
We frequently hear in the media how sex in relationships eventually becomes boring. Even some people in poly relationships often find themselves in a rut, doing the same old thing while getting lesser results. It doesn't have to be that way!  Through Tantra, you can experience NOW how to resurrect the passion and ecstasy in every aspect of your life as you expand your passion, your pleasure, and the depth of your intimacy beyond your wildest dreams! Step into a new paradigm of love, of sex and of living. Shama and Don Kraig guide you on this amazing exploration of awakening, consciousness and bliss.

Saturday October 23, 2004
7:30 - 8:30 AM Breakfast
9:30 - 11:00 AM

How We Do Poly Janet Kira Lessin, Panel & Participants
This is a very popular format and often the favorite part of the conference for many. The panel is led by Janet Kira Lessin and includes polys of several varieties and everyone else who wishes to share how they make polyamory work for them. The audience gets to ask questions, so everyone's included. Newbies get valuable answers to begin their poly lives.

11:00AM - 12:30PM

Hawkins' Cosmology, Polyamory and You Anastas Harris & Steven Vogue
David Hawkins has developed a cosmology of human consciousness that takes us from the lowest to the highest levels of human consciousness. He did this through research using applied kinesiology on hundreds and thousands of people over ten years time. He found that regardless of race, culture, religion, nationality, class, personality, state of mental health or even personal beliefs, almost exactly the same cosmology emerged with each individual.  When each state was rated for the level of life energy it represented, that too was, almost completely among the people tested.  

We'll take that cosmology and apply it to relationships to determine how each level impacts the possibility for polyamory. We've also looked at our own relationship from Hawkin's perspective. We'll share this cosmology and our insights into it and give an example from our own relationship as it relates to the different levels. 

Then you'll participate in a small group exploration of each person's current challenge in polyamory from the perspective of the cosmology of human consciousness. You'll have the opportunity to bring to the table a difficult or uncomfortable experience for you in the poly realm. You'll reflect upon and discuss your experience. You'll ask yourself where are you now, where do you want to be? What do you need to believe, know, do to be there? 

12:30 - 1:30 PM

 Lunch

1:30 - 3:30 PM

Resolve Poly Conflicts in a Tribe - Ed Seykota
Ed Seykota shares his powerful method of re-framing and combining your emotional forms to enhance intimacy. Ed shows you how to use sending and receiving to convert "problems" such as jealousy and insecurity into positive elements on your emotional control panel. Ed likes to use examples from the audience, so this is a participatory lab course. For more information on the method, see 
www.tradingtribe.com

3:30 - 5:00 PM

 

Manage Jealousy Dave Doleshal
Psychologist Dave Doleshal introduces and leads the seminar practicing Callahan and Bach's innovative and rapid techniques for jealousy management.

5:00 - 6:00 PM

Dinner

6:00 - 7:30 PM

Pair Bonding, Romantic Love & Multiple Partner Sexuality Leanna Wolfe
Is serial monogamy the normal human mating pattern? How then do we explain other patterns including polygamy, polyamory, and swinging? To address these questions, we examine cross-cultural research on romantic passion as well as the brain chemistry of romantic love.  Next we compare how the cultures of dating singles, swingers and polyamorists engage pairbonding and romantic love. We consider how singles focus on the differences between how women and men fall in love and evaluate making a pairbonded commitment. Next we see how polyamory mitigates against jealousy by celebrating compersion and maintaining relationship hierarchies. We notice how swinging culture teases up sexual attraction while reinforcing the strength of the marital bond. We reconsider the idea humans are serially monogamous. What keeps people swinging, or practicing open marriage, polygyny, polyandry and polyamory happy are the many different kinds of love they access simultaneously

7:30 - 9:30 PM

Intimate Erotic Photography & Poly Relationships Wilton Jones
This presentation is about four people who agreed to share a part of their intimate relationships with the world. Using photographs taken earlier this year as a samples, we will discuss how this photo session helped a poly family incorporate and partner in much less time than it might have taken in the past. We'll also discuss how you can use photography to both enhance your relationships and create images that are erotic and sensual without being lewd. 

9:30 -11:00 PM

Hypnofantasy & Hypnomassage Terry & Paul Brussel-Gibbons & Marcus Brussel Jenkins
Hypnosis demonstration shows you how to slay the green eyed monster, release sexual inhibitions which are no longer serving you, and how to share full body multiple orgasms with your partners. Bring your senses alive through guided fantasy. Experience the delights of sensual/spiritual connection through orchestrated hypnomassage. Romantic music heightens the intimacy for singles, dyads, triads and loving groups. 

11:00 - Midnight

Sing, Dance & Party Sophia Songhealer

Sunday Oct 24, 2004 - POST-CONFERENCE Green Room
9AM - 2:30PM

LIVING COMPERSION: AN EXPERIENTIAL AND TANTRIC WORKSHOP
Anastas Harris & Steven Vogue

In Compersion you're uplifted when your lover's uplifted through of love and sex he or she shares with others. Accept that while your lovers love others you can feel pleasure, excitation and joy. Compersion is essential to Polyamory.  Tantra, a spiritual path leading to compersion flows seamlessly into Polyamory.  In twos, fours and small groups, we move into compersion, tantra and polyamory--mentally, sensually, playfully or soulfully. You either stretch boundaries or move into already extended boundaries with a variety of individuals or couples. We give you enriching and supportive situations to develop your compersionate nature.

World Polyamory Association, Maui, HI www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com, 808-244-4103, WorldPolyamory@aol.com