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The World
Polyamory Association Presents
2004 SOUTHWEST REGIONAL CONFERENCE
LOVING BEYOND
THE MATRIX
Aliso Creek Inn, Laguna Beach, CA
October 22-24, 2004 |
| Friday Oct 22,
2004 Terrace Room |
| 9:00 AM |
Registration Desk
Opens
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| 10:00 -
11:00AM |
Orient
to Polyamory Janet Kira Lessin & Dave Doleshal
Janet and Dave orient all to the conference. They, oldtimers and
newcomers question each other and share experiences. |
| 11:00 - 11:20AM |
Welcome to the Conference, Schedule and
Logistics |
| 11:20AM - 12:30PM |
Pods
for Intimate Community Sasha Lessin
We play-first wordlessly. Then we talk and join small (6 -12 person)
groups. Our group is our pod. Our pod supports us getting what we want at
the conference and in life. Throughout the weekend, we talk with our pod
mates about what we learn about poly loving. To prepare for experiences
Shama, Don Kraig and Harold Kornylak lead, we imagine taking new lovers
into our net. We roleplay joining established lovers. Tomorrow we report
how we're doing fulfilling fantasies. |
| 12:30 - 1:30PM |
Lunch
|
| 1:30 - 2:30PM |
Touch
with Intention Les Nuckles
This presentation teaches people to touch and/or be present using focus
and intention. There's some lecture with lots of hands-on time. This
workshop prepares attendees to get more from the workshops that follow and
to be better able to connect with others. |
| 2:30 - 3:30PM |
How
to Enter an Established Poly Relationship Shama & Don Kraig
Learn to be a successful third, fourth, or fifth wheel! Navigating the
waters smoothly when entering an established relationship can be rough.
Shama & Don reveal important pointers that make the journey easier.
You learn the most important aspects of how to deal with exciting dynamics
a new person brings; the wonders and the potential pitfalls. Learn to
create balance and harmony in triads and beyond. Explore practical skills
including communication tools that can be used immediately to enhance and
expand the quality of all your relationships. |
| 3:30 - 4:30 PM |
On
Agreements Dawn Davidson &
"Safer" Agreements Agreements are one of the cornerstones of
successful relating, in all aspects of our lives. We'll cover how to make
more successful agreements, what should and shouldn't be in a safer sex
agreement, and how to make agreements regarding emotional safety. We'll
also discuss the agreements in our lives we're usually not even aware of.
We will cover why agreements fail, and how to help insure their success.
We'll also discuss how to recover when they fail. We'll be spending out
time together in a combination of lecture, interactive discussion, and
exercises |
| 4:30 - 5:30PM |
The
Bi-Poly Options for the 21st Century Ed Jor-El Elkin
Explore bi-sexual polyamorous relationship in a safe and supportive
environment. This workshop is for all levels of interest, especially for
the Bi-Curious as well as the Bisexually experienced. A theoretical and
experiential guide to the Bi-Poly option with guided imagery, pair and
multiple partner exercises. Using movement and dance, transformational
theater and role-playing exercises with opposite sex and same sex
partners, we explore the bi-poly option in fantasy and in
"reality". |
| 5:30 - 6:30 PM |
Dinner,
Songs by Sophia Songhealer
Sophia's songs coronate archetypes of love, beauty, strength,
joy, Compassion and wisdom to reign in our hearts. |
| 6:45 - 7:00 PM |
Polyamory:
Love Beyond The Matrix Janet Kira Lessin
Janet invites you to set aside who you think you are and reorganize brain
cells and emerge from this conference, able to stand proud and say,
"I'm polyamorous" and love beyond the matrix. |
| 7:00 - 8:30 PM |
Tantra
Ritual for Polys Sophia Songhealer
Sophia's ceremonial songs move us through energy exchanges that uplift and
support all-chakra connecting |
| 8:30 - 10:15 PM |
Beyond
the Dance of Two Harold Kornylak
An enduring, fulfilling two person partnership is rare enough, even most
animals tend to pair bond, so is it totally impractical to think of
expanding beyond the dyad, perhaps to 3, or 4? Well, for those who enjoy
the challenge, lets explore some of the unique dynamics when more than 2
relate together. How do we keep a triad from being a pair plus one. Get
some insight into your own relating styles and how compatible these styles
are with going beyond the dyad. (Discussion and experiential exercises). |
| 10:15 -
midnight |
Tantric
Polyamory Shama & Don Kraig
We frequently hear in the media how sex in relationships eventually
becomes boring. Even some people in poly relationships often find
themselves in a rut, doing the same old thing while getting lesser
results. It doesn't have to be that way! Through Tantra, you can
experience NOW how to resurrect the passion and ecstasy in every aspect of
your life as you expand your passion, your pleasure, and the depth of your
intimacy beyond your wildest dreams! Step into a new paradigm of love, of
sex and of living. Shama and Don Kraig guide you on this amazing
exploration of awakening, consciousness and bliss. |
| Saturday
October 23, 2004 |
| 7:30 - 8:30 AM |
Breakfast |
| 9:30 - 11:00 AM |
How
We Do Poly Janet Kira Lessin, Panel & Participants
This is a very popular format and often the favorite part of the
conference for many. The panel is led by Janet Kira Lessin and includes
polys of several varieties and everyone else who wishes to share how
they make polyamory work for them. The audience gets to ask questions, so
everyone's included. Newbies get valuable answers to begin their poly
lives. |
| 11:00AM
- 12:30PM |
Hawkins'
Cosmology, Polyamory and You Anastas Harris & Steven Vogue
David Hawkins has developed a cosmology of human consciousness that takes
us from the lowest to the highest levels of human consciousness. He did
this through research using applied kinesiology on hundreds and thousands
of people over ten years time. He found that regardless of race, culture,
religion, nationality, class, personality, state of mental health or even
personal beliefs, almost exactly the same cosmology emerged with each
individual. When each state was rated for the level of life
energy it represented, that too was, almost completely among the people tested.
We'll take
that cosmology and apply it to relationships to determine how each level
impacts the possibility for polyamory. We've also looked at our own
relationship from Hawkin's perspective. We'll share this cosmology and our
insights into it and give an example from our own relationship as it
relates to the different levels.
Then you'll
participate in a small group exploration of each person's current
challenge in polyamory from the perspective of the cosmology of human
consciousness. You'll have the opportunity to bring to the table a
difficult or uncomfortable experience for you in the poly realm. You'll
reflect upon and discuss your experience. You'll ask yourself where are
you now, where do you want to be? What do you need to believe, know, do to be
there? |
| 12:30 - 1:30 PM |
Lunch
|
| 1:30 - 3:30 PM |
Resolve
Poly Conflicts in a Tribe - Ed Seykota
Ed Seykota shares his powerful method of re-framing and combining your
emotional forms to enhance intimacy. Ed shows you how to use sending and
receiving to convert "problems" such as jealousy and
insecurity into positive elements on your emotional control panel. Ed
likes to use examples from the audience, so this is a participatory lab
course. For more information on the method, see www.tradingtribe.com |
| 3:30 - 5:00 PM
|
Manage
Jealousy
Dave Doleshal
Psychologist Dave Doleshal introduces and leads the seminar practicing
Callahan and Bach's innovative and rapid techniques for jealousy
management. |
| 5:00
- 6:00 PM |
Dinner
|
| 6:00
- 7:30 PM |
Pair
Bonding, Romantic Love & Multiple Partner Sexuality
Leanna Wolfe
Is serial monogamy the normal human mating pattern? How
then do we explain other patterns including polygamy, polyamory, and
swinging? To address these questions, we examine cross-cultural research
on romantic passion as well as the brain chemistry of romantic love.
Next we compare how the cultures of dating singles, swingers and
polyamorists engage pairbonding and romantic love. We consider how singles
focus on the differences between how women and men fall in love and
evaluate making a pairbonded commitment. Next we see how polyamory
mitigates against jealousy by celebrating compersion and maintaining
relationship hierarchies. We notice how swinging culture teases up
sexual attraction while reinforcing the strength of the marital bond. We
reconsider the idea humans are serially monogamous. What keeps people
swinging, or practicing open marriage, polygyny, polyandry and polyamory
happy are the many different kinds of love they access simultaneously |
| 7:30
- 9:30 PM |
Intimate
Erotic Photography & Poly Relationships
Wilton Jones
This presentation is about four people who agreed to share a part of their
intimate relationships with the world. Using photographs taken earlier
this year as a samples, we will discuss how this photo session helped a
poly family incorporate and partner in much less time than it might
have taken in the past. We'll also discuss how you can use photography to
both enhance your relationships and create images that are erotic and
sensual without being lewd. |
| 9:30
-11:00 PM |
Hypnofantasy
& Hypnomassage
Terry & Paul Brussel-Gibbons & Marcus Brussel Jenkins
Hypnosis demonstration shows you how to slay the green
eyed monster, release sexual inhibitions which are no longer serving you,
and how to share full body multiple orgasms with your partners. Bring your
senses alive through guided fantasy. Experience the delights of
sensual/spiritual connection through orchestrated hypnomassage. Romantic
music heightens the intimacy for singles, dyads, triads and loving
groups. |
| 11:00
- Midnight |
Sing,
Dance & Party
Sophia Songhealer
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| Sunday
Oct 24, 2004 - POST-CONFERENCE Green Room |
| 9AM
- 2:30PM |
LIVING
COMPERSION: AN EXPERIENTIAL AND TANTRIC WORKSHOP
Anastas Harris & Steven Vogue
In
Compersion you're uplifted when your lover's uplifted through of love and
sex he or she shares with others. Accept that while your lovers love
others you can feel pleasure, excitation and joy. Compersion is essential
to Polyamory. Tantra, a spiritual path leading to compersion
flows seamlessly into Polyamory. In twos, fours and small groups, we
move into compersion, tantra and polyamory--mentally, sensually, playfully
or soulfully. You either stretch boundaries or move into already extended
boundaries with a variety of individuals or couples. We give you enriching
and supportive situations to develop your compersionate nature. |