MAY 12 -14 2006, PROGRAM HARBIN HOT SPRINGS, CALIFORNIA

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Newcomer’s Circle: Orienting to Polyamory- Dave Doleshal CC
Dave and oldtimers gather in a corner of the conference room. Oldtimers and newcomers question each other and share experiences. This orientation is especially designed for those new to polyamory and/or for those attending their first polyamory conference, - but all are welcome. It's a good place to begin getting your burning questions answered, get your feet wet and begin to get to know your fellow participants at the conference.

Welcome, Logistics, Schedule - Janet Kira Lessin,  Dave Doleshal  CC
Etiquette of contact, nudity, quiet areas in Harbin, areas where noise and sexuality's ok, no smoking or fires, signup for cups, etc. outlined.

The Poly Chant: More Love, Conference Theme Song - Jaiia Earthschild CC
Composed this week by tantric composer Jaiia, Official Bard of the Lessin clan of Maui. Her poly chant may become an anthem, a theme for the relationship choice movement, and we are the first public gathering to sing it. 
 

Icebreakers & Pods for Intimate Community, Part 1 - Sasha Lessin, Janet Kira Lessin  CC
Mill around the big conference room, shake each others' hands and gaze in one another's eyes.  Feel attractions that arise. Then, based on your attractions sit with six to twelve other folks.

The group you choose is your POD. It's the group you tell who you are and what we want. Your pod's the sacred circle of souls who encourage you to get what you want at the conference and in life. You talk now, and will talk tomorrow morning and Sunday, just before the conference ends.  You talk with your pod mates about what you learn about yourselves as you explore poly loving.  Pods, then, are small face-to-face primary groups for conference integration. Your pod's a safe space to nourish community consciousness, create intimate, relationships us and our podners––the people in your pod––-can open-up, share what you deeply value and, most importantly, experience loving support for who you are and what you do.

Dinner CC

How We Do Poly - Janet Kira Lessin, Panel, Participants CC
Panel led by Janet Kira Lessin includes polys of several varieties and everyone else who wishes to share how they make polyamory work for them. The audience gets to ask questions, so everyone's included. Newbies get valuable answers to begin their poly lives.
 

Poly Playshop: Exercises in Authentic Loving - Kamala Devi and Michael McClure CC

Breakfast  CC

Pods: Intimate Community, Part 2 - Sasha Lessin, Janet Kira Lessin  CC
You share your name and a motion that the group to imitates to get a feeling of what it's like to be you this morning. Then you rejoin your pod (or shift pods) and review what you wanted to get out of this conference, what's happened so far, how you're doing getting what you said you wanted, what you want now and what steps you can take today to get what you want.

Morning Presenters' Previews (CC)  Anastas Harris, Steven Vogue and Scott Longwell preview the workshops they give this morning.
 

Then, in twos, fours and small groups, we move into compersion, Tantra and Poly in a dance that may be playful or soulful, mental or sensual, and that stretch boundaries or provide the opportunity to stretch into already extended boundaries with a variety of individuals or couples. We place you in situations in which you have the opportunity to experience or develop your compersionate nature in an enriching and supportive atmosphere.  

Beyond Boundaries - Scott Longwell (Lower Dining Room)
Have you experienced how the rigidity of boundaries can sometimes get in the way of your connecting and accomplishing things with others? In a healthy, intimate, poly relationship you express your interests -- what lies underneath your boundaries. When you identify and share those interests you invite your lovers to collaborate on your success. In this workshop, we improve our ability to openly and compellingly share our full self with another. We practice expressing the desires, pain and interests of our heart, mind, intuition, and sexuality. When we share the richness of the often conflicting truths that we try to protect rather than state a boundary we let our lovers see us more deeply and they are more inspired to partner with us on our self-care. We practice communicating from the integrity of our WholeBody. We use WholeBody Learning that engages, empowers, and integrates the heart, mind and body.
 

Lunch  CC

Afternoon Presenters' Preview  Dave Doleshal, Harold Kornylak, Amber Seitz, Keith Brown, Sasha and Janet, Terry and Paul Brussel-Gibbons and Laura Fiecher rap about the workshops and playshops they offer in the next three hours.

Polyamory 101: What You Did/'t Know You Did/'t Know - Keith Brown  LP
Group discussion, "From The Trenches" on what we've found that works and doesn't work.  Resource sharing.  Participants explore their own ideas, feelings and desires to discover what works for themselves.

Three or More in Love- Harold Kornylak, Amber Seitz  CC
An enduring, fulfilling two person partnership is rare enough. Even most animals tend to pair-bond. It’s totally impractical to think of expanding beyond the dyad, perhaps to 3, or 4? In Three or More in Love, we explore the unique dynamics when more than two relate. We explore how to keep a triad from being a pair plus one. Gain insight into your relating style and how compatible it is for going beyond the dyad. (Discussion and experiential exercises).

Bisexual Polyamourous Couple Building a Group Marriage - Terry and Paul Brussel-Gibbons and Laura Fiecher LP
Terry and Paul Brussel-Gibbons are a bisexual married couple. They have been involved in the polyamourous lifestyle of multiply committed relationships since their teens. They will share how each of them discovered their bisexuality and how it has affected their experiences in relating to outside lovers together and separately...in bringing special people closer. On June 2, 2001 Terry and Paul were handfasted with Marcus Brussel-Jenkins, and then on November 27, 2005 Laura Brussel-Fiechter joined
the Triad in a four-way handfasting ceremony to create a Quad. Laura will present with them here. They will all be happy to answer questions about how triads/quads work and the effect bisexuality has in this relationship.

4 - 5:30PM

Rapid Techniques for Jealousy Management - Dave Doleshal  LP
There are many good ideas and effective techniques that can be used to manage jealousy. All of them work at least to some extent.  This workshop will include two others that are very powerful, easy to learn, but not yet widely known within the polyamory community.  These are the methods originally pioneered by psychologist Roger Callahan and methods invented by Dr. Edward Bach, a British Homeopathic physician.
 

Honor Your & Others' Compersive and Jealous Voices - Sasha, Janet Kira Lessin CC
Experience basics of Centering to balance inner jealous and compersive voices in yourself and others. Hear and satisfy both. Learn how to simultaneously value your Jealous subself, value the Child within you that your Jealous Voice protects and t value your empathetic, Compersive subself as well.  Future-pace applying Centering should Jealousy raise its head.

Dinner  CC

Compassionate Communication, Conscious Cuddling - Kelly Bryson CC
We use original music and tantra-like puja connecting exercises to create a conscious space. Then Kelly leads an experiential conversation about how to not compromise any of your relationship needs. (because compromise is where you share).  Get into sweet connection with each other's needs, instead of polarized by each other's strategies.  Learn consensual morality & transparency to support everyone’s choice for how they need to be loved & to create their own designer relationship.  Practice simple tools to QTIP (Quit taking it personally)& to deliver difficult messages compassionately and without criticism. Recovering your lovejoy when buttons have been pushed.  Recognize and transform the core beliefs that disconnect us from our lovejoy.  Recover and sustain the lovejoy in all your relationships
 

Tantra Ecstacy for Polys - Evelena Rose CC
Learn ancient arts of connection and conscious sensuality that deepen connection with yourself, others, and all of life. Enhance your capacity for intimacy through safe, sacred, heart-centered interactions. Discover how breath practices, movement, imagery, and ritual deepen connections, enhance pleasure,
and help you move kundalini through the body. Open to your full sexual aliveness. An opportunity to experience the depths our breath can open within us. Brief lecture followed by breathing practice, dyad exercises, and a brief tantric ritual.

Presenters' Previews - Terry & Paul Brussel-Gibbons, Dave Doleshal, Kirsten Rose, Rafael Aisner, Master Rex, Miss Jane preview presentations they present this morning. CC
 

Power Exchange for Polys & Useful Skills from the Kink World - Master Rex & Miss Jane  CC 
This workshop deals with the skills and etiquette required for BDSM power exchange and how they can be applied in the real world to make life a simple pleasure. The approaches to negotiation and conflict resolution essential to successfully navigate the world of fetish and kink have direct benefits if properly and discretely applied in the world of relationship and business. With his submissive sex slave Jane as a demo helper, Rex covers the basic tools we can use while he gives a gentle and appetizing introduction to the world of Slaves and Masters.  Fun and enjoyable.

The Myth of Having A Separate Relationship  - Kirsten Rose CC
Polyamory is often defined as several separate relationships going on simultaneously. However, an alternative perspective, inspired by shamanism, tantra and family systems theory, is to view polyamory all as one single relationship that encompasses multiple persons and multiple points of responsibility. Viewing relationships this way resolves a number of practical "problems" often confronting people wishing to create and sustain non-monogamous lifestyles.

A Holistic Model for Natural Polyamory - Rafael Aisner LP
Hear the physiological, psychological and metaphysical evidence that polyamory is a balanced, natural way for us to relate with ourselves, other people and our environment. Rafael shares personal and transpersonal experiences from his ten years as an urban shaman, counselor and hypnotherapist, then leads a visualization to facilitate our natural experience of polyamory.

Pod Retrospective & Parting Puja - Sasha Lessin, Janet Kira Lessin  CC
We gaze into the eyes of each person in our Harbin poly community, return to our pods to review to what degree we got what we sought here and what we learned.  Then the whole community participates in a ceremony of honoring and appreciation and once again, with Jaiia, sings the Poly Anthem.

Lunch CC 

 Networking Time CC. 

Enjoy Harbin till 10PM